There was some discussion yesterday on Donal’s site whether we should think of marriage as transactional or not, especially in regard to settling.
Jesus talks about the transactional nature of following him in Luke 14:25-35 (NASB),
25 Now [a]large crowds were going along with Him; and He turned and said to them, 26 “If anyone comes to Me, and does not [b]hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be My disciple. 27 Whoever does not carry his own cross and come after Me cannot be My disciple. 28 For which one of you, when he wants to build a tower, does not first sit down and calculate the cost to see if he has enough to complete it? 29 Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who observe it begin to ridicule him, 30 saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish.’ 31 Or what king, when he sets out to meet another king in battle, will not first sit down and consider whether he is strong enough with ten thousand men to encounter the one coming against him with twenty thousand? 32 Or else, while the other is still far away, he sends [c]a delegation and asks for terms of peace. 33 So then, none of you can be My disciple who does not give up all his own possessions.
34 “Therefore, salt is good; but if even salt has become tasteless, with what will it be seasoned? 35 It is useless either for the soil or for the manure pile; it is thrown out. He who has ears to hear, [d]let him hear.”
To be very clear, everything in life is transactional.
I can use my time to play video games, or I can use it to exercise, or I can use it to read the Bible. I can use it to fornicate or I can use it to pursue a godly relationship headed towards marriage. I can use it to steal or work to get money to use it to buy.
Our greatest resource is time. And we exchange time for whatever it is that we do. This is the nature of the world that God created.
This is one of the fundamental things that women in today’s age have trouble understanding because society is constantly lying to them. No, women can’t have it all. Men tend to naturally recognize that if we spend more time on our job then we won’t have time for our family or hobbies. It’s a balancing act where you have to use your time wisely because you can’t do everything. Nor should you try to.
This is why it is important to listen from God about what you are supposed to be doing with your time. This is something I constantly have to work on because I don’t listen enough.
We are called to be stewards with that which we have been given: our time, our talents, our bodies, and the like. Don’t squander that which God has gifted to you.