I have many partial posts written in queue, but I’ve been thinking over the past couple of days that I think a deeper study of the Scriptures is needed.
One of the biggest things that has always come up in the “great game debate” is that the anti-gamers have stated that masculinity is right there in the Bible if you look for it. On the other hand, the pro-gamers state that this is clearly not the case.
However, as I have shown in quite a few posts now such as Masculinity is the truth and Mark 7 and the socialization of men, Jesus asserts himself in a godly masculine manner that many Christians would claim now is “game.” Game is only a codification of parts of masculinity that are attractive to women albeit in mostly in an appeal to the flesh instead of the Spirit. And as I have stated before don’t give credit to game, give credit to God for allowing game to show you part of what masculinity is supposed to look like.
My goal for this blog is not game, but to show men how to step into godly masculinity. A side effect of that is acting in a godly masculine manner around women which will be attractive to them.
As sad as it is to say, Christian nice guys are effeminate with women and therefore NOT acting in a Christian manner around them. Indeed, putting women on a pedestal, not calling out non-Christian behavior from women, being afraid to approach or talk to women, and being afraid to express opinions around women are distinctly NOT Christian behaviors. They are not serving God through these behaviors. They are not acting in a godly masculine manner.
Remember, the part of godly masculinity that is attractive to women is the masculinity and not the godly part. However, since no action is in a moral vacuum we want to act in a godly manner rather than in an evil manner.
The reason why many of the Christian men think they need game is that they [unconsciously or consciously] pridefully believe that they were serving God around women before they found game. Thus, they NEED game to be attractive to women or their wife because faith is not attractive. This is incorrect.
The Christian walk has always been about DOING and not KNOWING (James 1:22). It is not the faith that is attractive but the walking out of faith in a masculine manner that is attractive. Thus, Christian men who act effeminate (nice) around women are in sin and need to repent of it. It is clear that placing women on a pedestal instead of God is idolatry. This is one of the clearest definitions of sin.
Yes, they may have been deluded or brainwashed, but we are all deluded to some extent or another by society, feminism, churchianity, and even our families. This is no excuse (Hosea 4:6). All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God regardless.
The key is to believe that you were not serving God as a Christian nice guy. You cannot pridefully believe that you were right before God when being nice around women. This is difficult for many Christian nice guys and even Christian men to understand and accept, and I believe that it will undoubtedly be a stumbling block to them.
However, once you can admit that you were in sin and repent to God of that sin, you will start to understand why it is not “game” you need but to grow into the fullness of God’s creation for men which is masculinity directed by the Spirit. To become more like Jesus. This is to what we are called, and a man who truly does that will be respected and WILL be attractive to women as a side effect because God created women to be attracted to masculinity.
The path that I will be using is the Gospel Harmony on wiki starting from Jesus’ youth all the way to his ascension into heaven in chronological order. I will specifically be looking at his interactions with men, with women, and crowds, and will categorize the posts accordingly. It looks like there are about 145 parables and stories combined (subtracting the ~15 of the nativity), so this may take the greater part of this year. I probably will double up or more if some of the passages are short.
I will be interested to see what I learn about masculinity in the coming months from Jesus’ example, and I hope that any of you that are reading will be too.