I’m sure most of you have seen this video before:
Basically, the teachable lesson is that if you’re not sure whether a woman wants you to listen or to actually help her then the question becomes:
Do you need and ear or a hand?
Utilizing such a question to differentiate between situations can assist you in determining the proper course of action.
If she says an ear that doesn’t mean that you have to be the one to listen to her, especially if you’re trying to unbecome the quintessential nice guy. Instead it may be a better idea to have her talk to her girl friends about such things. Likewise, if she says she needs a hand that doesn’t mean you have to accept either.
Don’t do things for the sake of being nice. If you’re going to do them do them because you want to love the other person without any expectations.
In either case, take it with a grain of salt, make her say please, and add some teasing seasoning on top of it.
Edit: If you’re not the person who is supposed to be discussing a particular topic with a woman send her to the appropriate person to talk with. For wives send them to their husbands first. For single women send them to the church or her Christian friends. Basically, don’t be dumb and respect the authority structures that God has outlined in the Scriptures.