I’ve already written on the context of why the mutual submission passage does not apply to marriage. In marriage, there is already the structure of authority of headship and submission.
However, the real reason that this verse exists is because it is directed at the heart of human nature:
Ephesians 5:21 [a]and be subject to one another in the [b]fear of Christ.
I didn’t even make this photo, and it fits perfectly. Aside from that “tare”/”tear” spelling mistake. Can’t tell if it’s intentional or not.
Crab bucket mentality. If you remember back to my summary of Eph 5:1-20 passage from the mutual submission post, in one line it’s about exposing the unfruitful works of darkness and instead walking in the light.
Thus, the two choices when there is no authority present among believers in Christ are:
- Undergirding each other in love, or
- Pull each other down.
Given the prayer of Jesus to God of John 17 for believers to be as one, we understand that when there is no authority structure present Christians are to build each other up and not tear each other down. This is of primary importance acting out and becoming one as Jesus prayed.