AWALT is the common acronym for “All women are like that.” NAWALT being “not all women are like that.”
This acronym is fairly prevalent in the manosphere, but it would be nice to have a working definition to refer to since it is important to understand especially for Christian marriage minded men. Less so if you’re a player because you can just claim AWALT for anything and behave with no concern for morality.
When we, as Christians (or as part of the Christian manosphere), discuss AWALT we are specifically referring to the nature of women that is universal. Specfically, the nature of women that was created by the Creator. This nature of women extends past all moral and otherwise boundaries because it is innate in women. On the other hand, we are not talking about behavior that can be overcome by women through morality, reason, or self control. Christian or otherwise. Thus:
- AWALT — the innate nature of women as God created them.
- NAWALT — common traits in women today that may seem ubiquitous, but there are [few] women who are not like this because of their morality, reason, and/or self control.
So let’s get down to it. I’m going to get this list started but it is by no means comprehesive. If you have ideas, categories, behaviors, or other things to add to this list that I missed then comment and I will add them.
- Attraction — all women are [sexually] attracted to PSALMS — power/personality, status, athleticism, looks, and money.
- Attraction — all women are not [sexually] attracted to loyalty, good with children, and the majority of fruits of the Spirit like humility, patience, kindness, faithfulness, self control.
- Attractiveness — Men with perceived lower SMV/MMV than a woman will be relatively invisible to her. Also, see apex fallacy.
- Apex fallacy — when women talk about men in general only the top percentage of men (who are attractive) are who she is talking about. “Where have all the good men gone?” is “Where have all of the [attractive/alpha] good men gone?”
- Weakness — all women are turned off by weakness from men. Emotinal displays, sickness, or losing a job may fall into this category if the man purposely admits he is inadequate in some way. Women often have contempt or disgust for men that show weakness. (Exception: maybe his mother or grandmothers).
- Leadership/headship — if a man is not perceived to be leading/heading a relationship virtually all women will be unhappy, have a desire to nag him, be discontented, and [may] consider leaving him.
- Respect — respect will make it easier for a woman to submit (but does not guarantee it), while conversely disrespect will make it harder for a woman to submit (but also does not guarantee that she won’t).
- Shallowness/pickiness — women are as shallow as men when it comes to physical attraction. In fact, women are naturally even more picky and selective.
- Many or most but not all women believe that their accomplishments, career, personality, or the like make them more attractive to men. This is projection.
- Many or most but not all women believe that men should be like women: to be emotional, nice, and it will make them more attractive to women.
- Women have the ability, through the Holy Spirit and self control, to honor commands in the Bible such as to win their husbands without a word if their husbands don’t obey the word (1 Peter 3) albeit it will be very difficult for her.
Questionables Do women have the ability to agape love their husbands? There are no commands for women to agape love their husbands but to philea love them (Titus 2). Do women have full moral agency? Are women able to act as their own agent outside of men: what about the fact that women were under their fathers in the OT, and confirmed through 1 Cor 7 to also be under the authority of their fathers prior to marriage?
Former questionables in the context of Christianity (updated also with input from Donal’s link):
- On Agape: All [Christian] women have the capacity to agape love, respect, and submit their husbands. However, in the current culture this tends to be very rare.
- On moral agency: All women have full moral agency. They are responsible for their decisions as much as men are responsible for theirs. However, culture and churchianity tends to infantilize women’s decision making placing the consequence of poor decisions that women make onto men as men’s burden of leadership and responsibility.
- on authority: women are able to operate out of the bounds of authority of men (their fathers, husbands) although it may or may not be for the best depending on the different situations. This may need to be hashed out further per each scenario it occurs.