After being reposted across my facebook a bunch of times I decided I might as well pick this apart. I’m reposting most of the meat of the article here if you don’t want to read through on that site.
GODLY GIRLS WANT JESUS.
WE DON’T CARE ABOUT ANYTHING OR ANYONE MORE THAN JESUS.
WE LOVE JESUS.
WE WANT TO SERVE JESUS ALL OUR LIFE.
AND IF JESUS TELLS US TO BE SINGLE FOR FOREVER, WE WOULD DO IT.
So know that there is nothing you can do to take His place.
However, if we believe you are a man who will make us more effective in living out God’s personal calling in our life, we will be drawn to you.
If we believe you will speak Jesus’ words to us, we will be drawn to you.
If we believe you will point us to Jesus when we are confused or heartbroken or in sin, we will be drawn to you.
Does that mean we will want to marry you? Not necassarily. And that’s okay!
Just know if it is God’s will for you to marry a girl, God WILL lead you to a marriage that will make you more Holy and therefore more happy. You might have to live life with a few godly girls before you meet the one you will marry, but that’s good!
Investing in relationships in healthy ways with people who inspire you to be more like Jesus can only make you more Holy. Is this not what us Godly people want? If it isn’t, shouldn’t it be?
Stop caring so much about being “a better spiritual leader” or a better “speaker” or a better “gentleman” or “more sincere.”
It’s not about being the coolest or most attractive.
THE PRESSURE IS OFF OF YOU! BECAUSE ITS NOT ABOUT YOU! IT’S ABOUT JESUS.
Quit trying to be the perfect boyfriend. Quit trying to be her god.
Throw away the lists and JUST ABIDE.
Because when you run after Jesus, all those things will come naturally to you.
Heck, its not even about getting a girlfriend in the first place!
You are focusing on the fruit and not the vine!
IF YOU ABIDE IN HIM, YOU WILL BEAR MUCH FRUIT. APART FROM HIM, YOU CAN DO NOTHING AND YOU ARE WORTH NOTHING. (JOHN 15:5)
This goes for everyone.
Notice that in Galatians 5, it says the fruit of the spirit —>IS<— love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. It is a package deal. They are not separate entities.
Abide in Jesus with everything you have and you will start to look more like Him. 🙂
A Godly girl will be doing the same thing.
We tend to complicate this so much.
ALL A GODLY GIRL WANTS IS ONE THING MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE:
MORE OF JESUS.
So there’s the answer you’ve been waiting for 🙂
THIS IS ALL YOU NEED TO KNOW. THIS IS ALL YOU NEED TO STRIVE TO BE LIKE. JESUS. SIMPLY JESUS.
I’ve talked to Christian women about it. Their initial reaction is favorable. ‘Yeah, it’s great.. that is exactly what we need to tell Christian men.’ However, when I send them a few lines and tell them to contrast it to Scripture they begin to pick it apart and are like, ‘huh, I didn’t realize that it was this bad.’ Let’s pick this apart.
There is both good and bad here. We should never fully focus on the bad and thus throws out the baby with the bathwater. The nitty gritty that this post is supposed to reflect is true. Do not be unequally yoked in marriage:
2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. 17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you.
However, what does the vast majority of this post accomplish? I’d say for Christian men it’s confusing and non-helpful. The vast majority of Christian men ALREADY KNOW that they’re not supposed to be unequally yoked. So what is left to say? Seek a woman who loves Jesus and love Jesus yourself so that you can become more like him? Haha, already do that honey.
This post is Christianese for “just be yourself.” Hey, single Christian man: keep loving Jesus and girls will be attracted to that. Well, I suppose on some level that is true. The Bible does contain enough wisdom for a Christian man to grow into a masculine man that will be attractive to women… but who is discipling Christian men to become Christian men?
The Scriptures don’t say “give everyone a Bible and they’ll become Christians” but rather Matthew 28:19 [e]Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, 20 teaching them to observe all that I commanded you; and lo, I am with you [f]always, even to the end of the age.” There’s the human element of discipling and teaching.
So, let’s break down the rest from the perspective of the Scriptures.
 GODLY GIRLS WANT JESUS.
 WE DON’T CARE ABOUT ANYTHING OR ANYONE MORE THAN JESUS.
 WE LOVE JESUS.
 WE WANT TO SERVE JESUS ALL OUR LIFE.
 AND IF JESUS TELLS US TO BE SINGLE FOR FOREVER, WE WOULD DO IT.
 So know that there is nothing you can do to take His place.
 I’ll buy it. The passion for Jesus is there even though it’s circular logic: godly girls want Jesus. In other words, godly girls (who are pursuing after God) want Jesus. Right.
- Good prioritization of God first in your life. I’ll buy it again.
 Waaay too nebulous. Are we still talking about Jesus as first priority, or are we talking about how men just don’t measure up to Jesus? Knowing how much feminist culture shames Christian men I don’t doubt that many Christian men would assume the latter: “We don’t measure up to Jesus so what’s the point in looking for women then?” or “This woman has unrealistic expectations so why even try?”
Point  basically undoes the fact that points - are fine by being nebulous and inadvertently throwing unrealistic expectations upon Christian men.
 However, if we believe you are a man who will make us more effective in living out God’s personal calling in our life, we will be drawn to you.
 If we believe you will speak Jesus’ words to us, we will be drawn to you.
 If we believe you will point us to Jesus when we are confused or heartbroken or in sin, we will be drawn to you.
 Does that mean we will want to marry you? Not necassarily. And that’s okay!
 Just know if it is God’s will for you to marry a girl, God WILL lead you to a marriage that will make you more Holy and therefore more happy. You might have to live life with a few godly girls before you meet the one you will marry, but that’s good!
 Ouch. The last time I checked Eve was created to be a helpmeet to Adam not vice versa. There is some truth here though: it would be best if a woman’s calling matches up with her husband’s so both of them can fulfill them together. However, the selfishness in this statement is subtle: she’s drawn to you IF you help her in her calling. In other words: if she’s drawn to you and you get married you’re not the top priority after God in marriage… her calling is.
Additionally, there is the underlying assumption that other “callings” are more important than marriage. I see this evident in the wider Christian culture. Many women want to serve the poor, be a long term missionary in other countries, and the like and are forsaking marriage thinking they can put it off later. Marriage and children is the first calling — Genesis 1:28 God blessed them; and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it; and rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the [al]sky and over every living thing that [am]moves on the earth.” — and in no way does it play a backburner to “other callings.” A good marriage is one that can minister to everyone around you as it is one of the only things in the likeness of Jesus and the Church.
- Most Christian men will take this to mean only speak lovingly, but Jesus also called the syrophoenician woman a dog then praised her faith when she wasn’t offended. Jesus also harshly rebuked and/or chastised most everyone. The irony I suppose is men who are able to draw these strong boundaries for criticism and rebuke are the ones who women are attracted to.
Notice the bolded sections for the first three lines. It promises attraction where there may be none found.
 I thought this article was for men looking to find out what Christian men were looking for so they could marry? You’re now telling me all of these things that I could do could be fruitless? Ouch. So what now? You’ve just confused Christian men further.
 Ah, yes the old bait and switcheroo. God does not promise us a spouse slightly blunted on the fact that “if it’s God’s will.” Marriage to make you more holy and thus happy? That’s from the Bible of Oprah rather than God.
 Investing in relationships in healthy ways with people who inspire you to be more like Jesus can only make you more Holy. Is this not what us Godly people want? If it isn’t, shouldn’t it be?
 Stop caring so much about being “a better spiritual leader” or a better “speaker” or a better “gentleman” or “more sincere.”
 It’s not about being the coolest or most attractive.
 THE PRESSURE IS OFF OF YOU! BECAUSE ITS NOT ABOUT YOU! IT’S ABOUT JESUS.
 Quit trying to be the perfect boyfriend. Quit trying to be her god.
 Investing in relationships is good, but we are not made holy through them. Hebrews 10:10 And by that will, we have been made holy through the sacrifice of the body of Jesus Christ once for all. And also, we are sanctified in truth: John 17:17 Sanctify them in the truth; Your word is truth. 18 As You sent Me into the world, I also have sent them into the world. 19 For their sakes I sanctify Myself, that they themselves also may be sanctified in truth. Instead, our fellowship is aimed as it states earlier in John 17 to be one: “11 I am no longer in the world; and yet they themselves are in the world, and I come to You. Holy Father, keep them in Your name, the name which You have given Me, that they may be one even as We are.”
- This is an interesting pair. It’s true, but it’s also false. The intent here, I think, is aimed at performance. We cannot perform enough to get someone to like us. This much is true. But on the other hand, our desire first needs to be directed toward God: we want to be better spiritual leaders, better speakers, more authentic or sincere (gentlemen.. meh) in order to carry out our calling in this world.
Most Christian men would not be able to pull out the correct meaning from this statement. It essential encourages men to not even try. Stop caring about being a better spiritual leader? Ok, I won’t even try. Stop caring about being a better speaker? All that stuttering you do when you’re attracted to a girl you like… might as well not get over that. So bad.
 The emphasis on performance is back for good measure, but it’s not explained very well at all. The pressure is off because of Jesus? What does that even mean when you’re reading this article looking to be married?
 Ironically, this is a tale of two contradictions, and further illustrates why women don’t know their own [sexual] attraction indicators. A man trying to be the “perfect boyfriend” is he who puts a woman on a pedastal. It’s the exact opposite of “trying to be her god.” I don’t think this is an accident because women don’t understand the psychology of men. All a woman understands is that that she is disgusted at men who try to be a perfect boyfriend… to her it seems like he’s trying to be some paragon of light. In reality, he is idolizing her. He is not trying to be a “god” but rather he is lifting her up as a “god.”
 Throw away the lists and JUST ABIDE.
 Because when you run after Jesus, all those things will come naturally to you.
 Heck, its not even about getting a girlfriend in the first place!
 You are focusing on the fruit and not the vine!
 IF YOU ABIDE IN HIM, YOU WILL BEAR MUCH FRUIT. APART FROM HIM, YOU CAN DO NOTHING AND YOU ARE WORTH NOTHING. (JOHN 15:5)
 This goes for everyone.
 Notice that in Galatians 5, it says the fruit of the spirit —>IS<— love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. It is a package deal. They are not separate entities.
 Abide in Jesus with everything you have and you will start to look more like Him. 🙂
 A Godly girl will be doing the same thing.
- Starting to go off the rails here. Aren’t Churches supposed to be teaching men to run after Jesus? If so, why are most of them unattractive then? Yet, we know that most Churches are churchian… how exactly is a man supposed to distinguish between churchian and Jesus?
 Ouch. Of course it’s about getting a girlfriend/wife. Why else would a man be reading this article about what godly woman want? This is disingenuous at best; at least say it should not be top priority rather than dismissing it.
- Ah, the fruits of the Spirit. Yep, women are attracted to these things in a man… who they are already [sexually] attracted to. Why then do women long after the bad boy and wish to missionary date him then? If manifesting the fruits of the Spirit is attraction then why aren’t most Christian men attractive? I can’t fault her though. Most women don’t understand the difference between sexual attraction and attraction and know that one needs to preceed the other.
 We tend to complicate this so much.
 ALL A GODLY GIRL WANTS IS ONE THING MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE:
MORE OF JESUS.
 So there’s the answer you’ve been waiting for 🙂
 THIS IS ALL YOU NEED TO KNOW. THIS IS ALL YOU NEED TO STRIVE TO BE LIKE. JESUS. SIMPLY JESUS.
 Things are complicated for good reason. Churchianity also peddles this same advice given above to their detriment.
 Secular women: “just be yourself” Christian women: “Just be more like Jesus”
 What answer? I was more confused until I started picking through line by line. Imagine what the non-informed Christian man will think?
 That whole making disciples and teaching them thing. Nah. Here’s your Bible men, be more like Jesus. Good luck.
On the surface level I’m not exactly surprised to be honest. Most [Christian] women don’t know they shouldn’t be trying to teach men how to be men. Neither do most Christian men know they shouldn’t take advice about how trying to be a man or how to attract women from women.
The sad thing is that this is a product of the culture. Because most of us growing up innately believed the lies we were told that men and women are the same. We also implicitly believed that the other sex could understand each other and tell us relevant advice about how to do things. This can only be proved demonstratably false as the underlying premises are false. Culture pervades much more than we know, and we are supposed to only be in the world but not of the world.
As with all things coming out of churchianity there is some truth but it is marred by insidious heresy left and right. The lies are most deceptive when there are half truths mixed in.
Even after all that I believe her intent is good. But it’s quite poor execution, and women should not be telling men what women want anyway.