Meeting your husband’s and wife’s seven basic needs

I came across these from a source, and I was initially expecting the usual garbage. However, like the 10 women Christian men should not marry, these were actually fairly solid. I was pleasantly surprised.

I thought they could’ve done a better job at putting more Scripture in there, but there was a solid mix of Scripture and practical/anecdotal advice that is actually true and not churchian lies.

Quibbles with some of the wording, but it stays fairly true to the Scriptures. Try to pick out the wording that is questionable.

As always, I “appreciated” the feminist “critique” in the comments on each of the articles.

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12 Responses to Meeting your husband’s and wife’s seven basic needs

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  2. Pedat Ebediyah says:

    Wow, I went to that brothers Blog and he most certainly took a flogging from the dissenters.

    Not nearly as bad as Pastor Kim did (1,499 responses and counting…most of whom were scoffers), but a mess nonetheless.

  3. KingProphetPriest says:

    My favorite part in the comments?

    All the women harping on what the Scriptures say who go on to express opinions that are not supported by Scripture.

    Ignorance of the word of God is a recipe for disaster. I have long taken to heart the words of James: “Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness.” Do not these women realize that in stating their opinions, they are entering into the category of teachers? Do they not know they will be held accountable for this?

    There is a reason that Paul said “If there is anything they desire to learn, let them ask their husbands at home. For it is shameful for a woman to speak in church.” and these women are a clear reflection of this. Likewise, “I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.”

    “But…but…but that doesn’t really mean what it says!”

    It seems harsh to say, “sit down and shut up, ladies,” but as time goes on it seems like the only thing that will save us from ourselves.

    There is a proper place for women to teach and it’s found in Titus: older women teaching younger women to love their husbands and children, to be keepers of the home and to exercise self-control. BAM! There’s your recipe for a successful society right there.

  4. Regular Guy says:

    Reading through the comments, Pedat is right. It’s safe to say, most self-identifying “Christian” women feel no obligation to their husbands. And why should they when the majority of the Western Church tells them they don’t need too?

    I agree with DS, there could have been stronger assertions made if he backed them up with more scripture. Although one of glaring oversights I see men make when asserting Christian Headship of the home is not bringing up 1 Cor 7:13-15.

    1 Corinthians 7:13-15King James Version (KJV)
    “13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
    14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
    15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.”

    Women are called to remain faithful and submit to their husbands even in the case of unbelief. This cuts off all arguments of moral conditions in which a wife doesn’t have to submit to her husband.

    Not that sound doctrine or scripture will change the attitudes of these harridans. It’s still entertaining to read their delusions.

  5. Looking Glass says:

    @Regular Guy:

    Still falling into a little bit of problematic thinking with “And why should they when the majority of the Western Church tells them they don’t need too?”. Women are still *utterly* responsible for their actions & choices, regardless of what others are telling them.

    Granted, they’re damning their own souls by their actions, but no one is let off the hook for their choices. That’s part & parcel with their being “no partiality in Christ”. We’re all responsible for our own Souls. Woe to the fool that thinks themselves a Christian and never gets this truth.

  6. Regular Guy says:

    Christian culture is infested with Deborah-wannabes and Proverbs 31 women. May the Titus 2:5 wives please stand up?

  7. Regular Guy says:

    @Looking Glass

    I agree with you, I meant the question to be rhetorical. I should have made that more clear.

  8. KingProphetPriest says:

    @Regular Guy

    That section in I Corinthians is great, but I Peter 3:1 is good as well:

    “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.”

    A case could be made that the “some who do not obey the word” means this is only directed at wives of unbelieving husbands only, but it’s a weak one. It’s all wives, even those with disobedient husbands.

    We should note that the husbands are won “without a word” because of the “respectful and pure conduct” of the wife. Respectful to who? God? Or the husband? Pure toward who? God? Or the husband? I would say it is toward the husband for it to make sense.

    What I just realized that I have never seen anyone address (literally anyone in my 30+ years as a Christian) is that very first word: “Likewise.”

    Likewise means “in the same matter.” In the same manner as what? Read the end of the previous chapter for context.

    Submit like slaves to a master. A master who might be kind and considerate or one who is harsh and causes unjust suffering.

    Submit like Jesus submitted to the cross. “When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly.”

    Hmmm. That whole “without a word,” thing. Kind of like Jesus before Pilate, maybe?

    “But…but…but my husband said something unkind! He’s lazy! He doesn’t love me like Christ loves the church! You’re saying I should submit to him? That I should have SEX with him?”

    Did not retaliate. Did not threaten. Like a lamb before its shearer is silent, so he opens not his mouth. Entrusted himself to God who judges justly. Submitted no matter what.

    Wives who do not submit are screaming, “I don’t trust you, God!” no matter how many times they raise their hands to a praise song and sing, “Trust and obey, for there’s no better way…”

    Watch their actions, not their words.

    Modern rebellious wives are the foolish wives of Proverbs 14:1:

    “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”

  9. Nonya says:

    I liked the post to wives but not the one to husbands. The post about the wife’s needs was basically “tell your wife what she should do for you and then praise her for doing it”. He missed the mark a bit there.

  10. feeriker says:

    But…but…but that doesn’t really mean what it says!”

    More like “but … but … but that’s soooooooo ‘First Century!’ There’s no way ANY of that applies to the modern era!”

  11. feeriker says:

    “Wives who do not submit are screaming, ‘I don’t believe in you, God’!”


  12. shadowofashade says:

    But…but…but that doesn’t really mean what it says!

    Or as the serpent put it: Did God really say….

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