Reflections of purpose

Been in a bit of a contemplative mood recently on what it means to be a Christian men who desires a wife. Let’s reflect together.

Are you a Christian: are you a Christian that others want to emulate and non-believers look at an know you’re a Christian?

If not, why? What can be done to fix that?

I am a child of God. I should be truly at peace and joyful of who I am in Christ. This should reflect in my daily life.

Am I stewarding my gifts [of the Spirit] that God has given me? Do I even know what they are?

If not, why? What can be done to fix that?

Knowing what you gifts are is critical to know how you are to work in the body of Christ. If you don’t know what they are it may be difficult to find peace within the fellowship because you’ll feel and think like an outsider.

  • Romans 12:6-8 — prophecy, serving, teaching, exhortation, giving, leadership, mercy
  • 1 Corinthians 12:8-10 — words of wisdom, words of knowledge, faith, gifts of healing, miracles, prophecy, distinguishing between spirits, tongues, interpretation of tongues
  • 1 Corinthians 12:28 — apostles, prophets, teachers, miracles, kinds of healing. helps, administration, tongues
  • Ephesian 4:11 — apostle, prophet, evangelist, pastor, teacher
  • 1 Peter 4:11 — whoever speaks, whoever renders service

Am I stewarding the vision that God has given me for this life? Do I even know what mine is?

If not, why? What can be done to fix that?

One of the biggest things for me was figuring out my life’s purpose. Realizing what my talents and focusing them to achieve as an overarching vision is imporatnt. It can have to do with God, the Church, business/work, hobbies, family, or any combination thereof.

Am I cultivating my masculinity: with God, Church, business/work, hobbies, and with women.

If not, why? What can be done to fix that?

What does it mean to be a man and how can I work toward that. What traits to I need to cultivate and develop.

Are you a man: are you a man that a woman would want to marry?

If not, why? What can be done to fix that?

The measure of a man is not his attractiveness to women but rather the measure of the reflection of his inward walk with God toward women. As I become more at peace with who I am in Christ women are not such a focus and will not be an idol. Talking to women and asking them out and developing a relationship is piddly change compared to the intimacy of my relationship with God.

Now, combine these together since they are not the same thing apart:

Are you a Christian man: are you a Christian man that a Christian woman would want to marry?

If not, why? What can be done to fix that?

In general, my 5 step process to maturity in relationships looks at some of these issues in more depth.

If I am in a relationship: how am I stewarding this relationship to grow both in Christ and with the others.

The goal is not to satisfy myself but to lead and head up a relationship that can withstand any trials and tribulations (spiritual, financial, emotional, physical, etc), additions (kids), subtractions (death), and the like and still grow in truth, trust, and intimacy.

Questions like these serve as reminders of the goal(s) that each of us set. They are not meant to encourage a performance mindset of evaluating your worth based on what you do or the quality of woman you attract. Rather, if you have no set goals and are not working toward them or evaluating your progress toward them you will fail.

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2 Responses to Reflections of purpose

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  2. wish more christians would teach this
    all I hear is
    real men change diapers
    cook dinner
    do laundry
    and wash dishes
    so basically the stay at home dad is idolised

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