This post comes from Authentic Manhood blog. I’ve read through a bunch of their blog posts, and they seem good so far. I can’t really tell as most of their material is in products though.
Here is the relevant part I want to discuss though:
My perception of what it meant to be a Christian man had been skewed by the way Jesus was typically presented in my church experience. David Murrow says in his book Why Men Hate Going To Church, “our very definition of what it means to be a ‘good Christian’ skews female.” He illustrates and supports this position with a quiz. Here it is:
Examine these two sets of values and choose the set that you think characterizes the values of Jesus Christ and His true disciples:
- Set “A”
- Proving Oneself
- Goal Orientation
- Set “B”
- Personal Expression
- Loving Cooperation
Murrow says that he has administered this quiz to thousands of people: men, women, Christians, and non-Christians. More than 90% of the time, people choose Set “B” as the best representation of Jesus Christ and His values.
Then, he reveals the origin of the two lists. These two value sets were plucked from the pages of the best-selling book, Men are from Mars, Women Are From Venus by Dr. John Gray. In Chapter 1 he identifies Set “A” as the values of Mars, whereas Set “B” describes the values of Venus. In other words, Set “A” represents the values common among men while Set “B” represents the values common among women.
Most of the people who took this little quiz think of Christ as having the values that come naturally to a woman! Granted, the values listed in Set “B” are some of the values that represented Jesus. The results of this quiz illustrate how confused today’s culture is about the real Jesus and the kind of masculinity he modeled. Most people’s vision of biblical manhood is blurred.
To maintain a clear vision of Authentic Manhood, it takes more than a brief encounter to discover what Jesus is really like. He is our model for manhood, and that demands our full attention. A close look at the life of Jesus reveals that real men reject passivity, accept responsibility, lead courageously, and invest eternally. They look good written in a journal, but integrating them into your life requires disciple, vulnerability, trust, and accountability over time.
Obviously, this is another clear piece of evidence that the Church has become increasingly feminized which I talked about in the 3 big elephants in the room. Most Christian men — and women for that matter — do not understand that they are living in a Christian environment that is feminized. However, the problem doesn’t just stop there. Since the church is feminized that implicitly — or sometimes explicitly — makes people think that feminine values are good and masculine values are bad. This is where the true heresies start coming out that women are good and men are bad. In some particular circles this has been warped even further to women are innately good and men are innately bad.
Unfortunately, the flaw I see from the site that otherwise has good material is that it still ignores discussing attraction in the context of manhood and marriage. But at least it seems some people recognize part(s) of the problem and are willing to work to correct the issue even if it is paid material. Alternatively, by becoming masculine you become attractive, so it is addressed somewhat peripherally.
Christian men should embrace their male traits: Competence, Power, Accomplishment, Efficiency, Skills, Proving Oneself, Goal Orientation, Competition, Results, Self-Sufficiency, Success, and Achievement. However, keep in mind that they need to be done in the context of grace and the gospel.