I was in a discussion the other day with both males and females. One of the interesting topics brought up was some of the first attributes that come to mind when you think of a friend. This is obviously not a comprehensive list, but here was some of the themes that came up based on the differences between men and women.
- Men — Attentiveness (to needs), loyalty
- Women — Honesty, sincerity, fun
I suppose this type of thing really reveals the sex difference between men and women.
In particular, what men look for in friends and also marriage is someone who is attentive to their needs and loyal (e.g. a helpmeet). I can see why MGTOW is becoming such a popular option among younger men these days based on this. Most women these days are neither attentive to their man’s needs nor loyal to him.
Among the women’s comments there is the pattern as well. It’s funny because even though women often ‘say’ they don’t like the Truth, they really value it coming from a friend and/or in marriage as well. This is why the white knights and panderers fail in relationships with women because they tell them what they want to hear and cater to them rather than lead and keep women honest. Fun speaks for itself.
It should be no surprise that both men and women do not cultivate traits that are optimal for lasting relationships between each other nowadays.