Back in 2013, when SSM’s site was going strong, Cail Corishev came up with (?) a theory that women with BPD was either strongly correlated and/or caused by too much freedom. I found this quite interesting and commented over there, and I was recently reminded of this post which is why I’m bringing it back up.
BPD is borderline personality disorder, although now classified by ICD-10 as emotionally unstable personality disorder.
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a pattern of abnormal behavior characterized by extreme fear of abandonment; unstable relationships with other people, sense of self, or emotions; feelings of emptiness; frequent dangerous behavior; and self-harm.
Borderline personality disorder may be characterized by the following signs and symptoms:
~ Markedly disturbed sense of identity
~ Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment
~ Splitting (“black-and-white” thinking)
~ Severe impulsivity
~ Intense or uncontrollable emotional outbursts that often seem disproportionate to the event or situation
~ Unstable and chaotic interpersonal relationships
~ Self-damaging behavior
~ Distorted self-image
~ Frequently accompanied by depression, anxiety, anger, substance abuse, or rage
Genetics seems to play a moderate role much like homosexuality, although I would be interested to see if there are epigenetic effects like obesity. For example, the heritability of schizophrenia is high. That means if your parents had it, then there’s a high chance you will get it as well due to genetic influences. However, for low and moderate heritable traits, there is some influence of genetics on development of the trait, but it’s hard to suss them out even from twin studies because of shared environment and potential epigenetic effects.
What epigenetic effects are is the passing on of conditions without encoding genetics for the condition. The rise of obesity is, in part, due to epigenetic effects. If your grandparents and parents are obese there’s a much higher likelihood of the children developing obesity because the patterns of methylation on DNA can be passed on to offspring even though they may not have genes for obesity.
Indeed, childhood [sexual] trauma shows a strong correlation with BPD, and it may play the strongest role. It’s interesting when you combine this with fatherlessness. One of the stats from the CDC shows that “85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average.”
Going back to Cail Corishev’s theory, what I suspect is that it’s not so much that BPD are women with too much freedom. Instead,
BPD are women without strong and moral authority figures, typically fathers, in their lives. Additionally, when they were young they were not morally grounded or taught responsibility for actions and consequences.
Women who have strong father figures know they are loved and have a strong sense of their own identity. It is generally the fathers who play the strong role in teaching their children morality in regard to right and wrong and that there are consequences for actions. Mothers tend to shy away from such discipline if there is a strong husband and father for their children.
Indeed, if you look at the list of potential symptoms, a strong loving father would help prevent all of those, if not completely. Strong sense of identity, no feelings of abandonment, less or eliminated black and white thinking, less impulsivity, less emotional outbursts, most stable interpersonal relationships, good self image, no dissociation, not as prone to depression, anxiety, rage, substance abuse, and the like.
To tie this back to the Scriptures, the increasing prevalence of personality and behavioral disorders — not just BPD — are big reasons for strong, loving authority figures. All children are not meant to grow up without fathers, and women are not meant to ‘go it alone’ in the world. Feminists like perpetuating the myth of the independent woman, but we all know that it is not true.
Hence, the strong effect of fathers in raising stable and mature daughters is why daughters are under the authority of their fathers until they get married, after which they are under the authority of their husbands. The fathers and husbands represent a protective covering over them and a stable, grounding influence in their lives.