In the previous post on a woman’s sexual partners and divorce risk, we found out that approximately 5% of women were virgins when they were married in 2010. I noted that I wanted to go back and do a ‘better’ statistical analysis that is less confounded than previously in Doom and gloom and the amount of attractive Christian virgins.
Let’s do it.
- There are 10,466,258 women aged 25-29 and 10,571,823 women aged 20-24 and 10,736,677 women aged 15-19 in the US in 2010. Let’s say the range from 18-29 is good. 18-19 make up ~40% of the 15-19 range so ~4,294,671 women.
2010 Census Data. Not much changes in 5 years given the chart as each population group is still roughly 10 million. http://www.census.gov/prod/cen2010/briefs/c2010br-03.pdf
(1) Total women in 18-29 age range =25,332,752
- Less than 20% of Americans regularly attend church — half of what the pollsters report. While Gallup polls and other statisticians have turned in the same percentage — about 40% of the population — of average weekend church attendees for the past 70 years, a different sort of research paints quite a disparate picture of how many Americans attend a local church on any given Sunday. […] His findings reveal that the actual rate of church attendance from head counts is less than half of the 40 percent the pollsters report. Numbers from actual counts of people in Orthodox Christian churches (Catholic, mainline and evangelical) show that in 2004, 17.7 percent of the population attended a Christian church on any given weekend.
- We also know that 70% of young adults in the 18-22 range drop out of church.
These two factors as pointed out are heavily confounded with each other. As KPP pointed out in the previous comments, about half of the 2/3 that drop out eventually end up attending again albeit in lower frequency. For the sake of argument, I’m willing to be factor out the dropout rate of young adults altogether using the US population “regularly attenders” as the standard which is 17.7%
(1) Total women in 18-29 age range, (2) who regularly attend Church = 25,332,752 * .177 = 4,483,897
- 58.5 of women 20-39 years old are overweight or obese in 2011-2012 in the US.
Unfortunately, there’s no data for strictly say 18-29, so this is just an approximation. It’s probably slightly less because metabolic rates start to slow down into early 30s.
One could say that Christians have more self control than their counterparts. However, as I have noted in posts such as A lesson in false humility: Christians are allergic to healthy lifestyles, Christian women tend to find a way to rationalize that paying attention to physical appearance is an idol. This statistic is probably pretty accurate.
(1) Total women in 18-29 age range, (2) who attend Church regularly, (3) who aren’t overweight or obese = 4,483,897 * .415 = 1,860,817
- In highly religious groups, up to 20% wait until marriage successfully. Naturally, religious people seem more likely to wait until marriage to have sex. In a study of 9 Southern Baptist churches in Texas (it doesn’t get much more conservative than that), 20% of the church members aged 25 or younger were married without ever having premarital sex.
- In the general population, the ratio of women-to-men who wait until marriage to have sex seems to be about 60/40 girls-to-guys. This statistic disproves the common misconception that only women wait until marriage to have sex. Statistically-speaking, plenty of guys wait too!
If 20% is the number for super conservative Churches like Southern Baptists in Texas then the numbers for other Churches are probably dismal.
Generally speaking, if we look at the statistics in most Churches, they are bent approximately 60/40% women to men. This is a result of the feminization of Christianity resulting in churchianity. 20% averaged for 60/40 split of virginity at marriage 24% for women and 16% for men. This also means that if say there are 60 single women in Church and 40 single men, there are about 60 * .24 = 14.4 virgin women and 40 * .16 = 6.4 virgin men.
- Proportionally ~2.5x less virgin men than women in your average congregation.
You could say that women who are not overweight or obese have more self control than their fatter counterparts. However, men also find overweight and obese women unattractive. Thus, I am counting this as a wash even though it’s likely that based on physical attractiveness there are more overweight and obese virgins. Hence,
(1) Total women in 18-29 age range, (2) who attend Church regularly, (3) who aren’t overweight or obese, (4) who stay a virgin until marriage = 1,860,817 * .24 = 446,596
I factored in as many confounding variables as I could, and I was conservative at adding more variables to the equation because of confounding factor overlap. Other variables with confounding factors that I didn’t include in the statistics:
- The National Marriage Project also found that “about 80 percent of young-adult men and women continued to rate marriage as an ‘important’ part of their life plans; almost half of them described it as ‘very important.’” Thirty percent of 25-year-old single women want to be married. Read more at http://national.deseretnews.com/article/1893/The-national-marriage-age-is-increasing-but-not-for-this-group-of-people.html . Only ~30% of women want to be married in the 18-30 age range on average approximately.
- Those who attend church are not always “Christians.” Based on my experience and others I’d say that only 10-20% of Christians in churches are actually reading their Bible and striving to obey Scripture.
- Worse measures of virginity in non-extremely conservative Church populations.
- Denominational differences. Some of the stats clumps all religions together (hindu, muslum, etc.) not just Catholic and Protestant.
Thus, I believe the above statistics are a fairly accurate measurement compared to the previous estimate. If anything, it’s going to be a slight to moderate overestimate.
The previous post resulted in these stats:
In conclusion, there are approximately 125,000 (126,157) Christian women in the US aged 18-29 who regularly attend Church, aren’t overweight or obese, and are virgins at marriage. This is approximately 0.5% of the 18-29 total population (126,157 / 25,332,752). Pretty rare. In the US total population it is .039% (126,157 / 320,090,000).
Specifically, in any random Church the percentage that you’ll find a 18-29 year old attractive, Christian virgin is going to be .2 (virginity at marriage) * .415 (not overweight or obese) = 8.30%. In other words, about 1 in 12.
Let’s update those stats.
In conclusion, there are approximately 450,000 (446,596) Christian women in the US aged 18-29 who regularly attend Church, aren’t overweight or obese, and are virgins at marriage. This is approximately 1.76% of the 18-29 total population (446,596 / 25,332,752). In the US total population it is .014% (446,596 / 320,090,000).
Specifically, in any random Church the percentage that you’ll find a 18-29 old with the attributes of non-overweight or obese and virginity is going to be .24 (virginity at marriage) * .415 (not overweight or obese) = 9.96%. In other words, about 1 in 10.
This is why looking for a quality woman is a numbers game.
The average Church size is approximately 186 attenders. Your average Church is 60/40 women to men as we mentioned before. The women tend to be disproportionately older or families with children. Total 18-29 women in the US who attend Church are (25,332,752/320,090,000) * .177 = 1.40%. If the dropout rates of 70% with about 1/3 coming back are correct then about 2/3 are retained. Hence, we get:
- 26 women (186 * (3/2) * .014 * .67 * ~10) in the 18-29 age group in your average congregation.
- 2.6 women (186 * (3/2) * .014 * .67) who are age 18-29, not overweight or obese, and virgins in your average congregation.
Unfortunately, there is room for gloom. But don’t lose hope. Advice in the conclusion.
Conclusions and advice
- Women who are 18-29,
- regularly attend Church,
- aren’t overweight or obese,
- are virgins at marriage
Statistics based on these criteria:
- 1.76% of the 18-29 total population.
- .014% of the total US population.
- 10% of Church going women 18-29 are not overweight or obese and virgins.
- 26 women in the 18-29 age group in your average 186 member congregation.
- 2.6 women who are age 18-29, not overweight or obese, and virgins in your average 186 member congregation.
- 14 women who are age 18-29, not overweight or obese, and virgins in your average 1,000 member congregation
- 140 women who are age 18-29, not overweight or obese, and virgins in your average 10,000 member congregation
The last 5 statistics are probably slight overestimates. More conservative Churches may have slightly more. More liberal Churches will probably have less. Larger congregation have a tendency to be more liberal; hence, it is probably less than 140 women per 10,000 members.
That said there are good indicators for who the attractive Christian virgins are. They wear feminine clothing, have long hair, have an innocent look, have strong masculine fathers, value family and marriage, love children, don’t have tattoos, don’t like alcohol, and other such traits.
Of course, most of the men are probably going after the 10% in each Church, so you need to learn how to be a strong, confident masculine leader if your goal is one of those women.
- Attend one main Church.
- Go to young adult events at other Churches and gatherings to increase your chances of meeting one of these few age 18-29 attractive, Christian virgins.
- Potentially attend a mega-Church, although the theology of many mega-Churches nowadays can be questionable. If you do, understand the importance of vetting character and attitudes.
- At 2.6 women per average congregation you might just be better meeting many 18-29 year old women at various hobbies, dances, and other social events because 1.76% of them will be Christian women who regularly attend Church, are not obese or overweight, and are virgins. If it’s a physical activity your chances are potentially better since that tends to eliminate the overweight and obese.
- Use your friends and families to network!
- If you’re still young, perhaps volunteer in university campus Christian group(s) as a leader or continue to be one if you recently graduated.
- Other advice here on my detailed timeline and how to guide on the process of finding a wife.
My Church is smaller than the average congregation. I did not find my girl in my current Church.