Looking Glass had a incisive comment that expounds upon the two choices men have in Christianity.
On the approach a Christian Man should take with regards to relationships (as a general point, in case anyone else comes across this), to simplify it a bit, you have two paths: Patriarch or Monk. What has the Lord instructed you in the direction for your life? Whichever it is, that’s the way you go. Learn to do it very well.
Paul expounds on this in 1 Corinthians 7. However, I like the obvious contrast between the two choices as concepts that are rarely used in a good way in our age of “modernity.” Fathers and husbands are held with contempt as Dalrock has noted frequently, and single men who do not marry are despised because they refuse to “man up and marry.”
What are you called to as a Christian man?
Patriarch or Monk?
Could be both if you were divorced or your wife died. For most Christian men, the choice is fairly intuitive. But for some, it needs much prayer and wise counsel.
2 Timothy 1:6 For this reason I remind you to kindle afresh the gift of God which is in you through the laying on of my hands. 7 For God has not given us a spirit of [f]timidity, but of power and love and [g]discipline.
Either way, we move in the power, love and discipline of the Holy Spirit with our gifts.