Male attractiveness, submission, and female orgasms

Since there’s been some discussion on attraction and submission and how it relates to sexual satisfaction on Submission is a test of faith, I decided to go digging a bit for studies.

Men’s masculinity and attractiveness predict their female partners’ reported orgasm frequency and timing

It has been hypothesized that female orgasm evolved to facilitate recruitment of high-quality genes for offspring. Supporting evidence indicates that female orgasm promotes conception, although this may be mediated by the timing of female orgasm in relation to male ejaculation. This hypothesis also predicts that women will achieve orgasm more frequently when copulating with high-quality males, but limited data exist to support this prediction. We therefore explored relationships between the timing and frequency of women’s orgasms and putative markers of the genetic quality of their mates, including measures of attractiveness, facial symmetry, dominance, and masculinity. We found that women reported more frequent and earlier-timed orgasms when mated to masculine and dominant men—those with high scores on a principal component characterized by high objectively-measured facial masculinity, observer-rated facial masculinity, partner-rated masculinity, and partner-rated dominance. Women reported more frequent orgasm during or after male ejaculation when mated to attractive men—those with high scores on a principal component characterized by high observer-rated and self-rated attractiveness. Putative measures of men’s genetic quality did not predict their mates’ orgasms from self-masturbation or from non-coital partnered sexual behavior. Overall, these results appear to support a role for female orgasm in sire choice.

So we know that women orgasm and are generally more sexually satisfied with dominant and masculine men. Who knew? Full study here.

What’s interesting is that the masculinity is both subjective and objective.

  • Objective components: high objectively-measured facial masculinity, observer-rated facial masculinity, high observer-rated attractiveness
  • Subjective components: partner-rated masculinity, and partner-rated dominance, self-rated attractiveness.

I would be especially interested to see the data on subjective components to see if the trends hold true for ‘regular’ men of whom their wives have a strong impression of them. That would give some good credence to pair bonding and virginity.

If you look at the full study the ironic thing is men’s self rated masculinity was negatively correlated with female orgasm. Indeed, this suggests that the more ‘macho’ a man thinks he is (as opposed to actually is), the less his woman will orgasm. Nothing turns off a woman more than false bravado.

Female copulatory orgasm and male partner’s attractivenessto his partner and other women

Women’s copulatory orgasm may function to retain sperm from men with ‘‘good genes’’, one indicator of which is attractiveness, and one benefit of which is pathogen resistance. Women who perceive their partner to be more (vs. less) attractive are more likely to report orgasm at last copulation. Another benefit of male attractiveness to women is that he may sire offspring that will gain the heritable share of this advantage (i.e., ‘‘sexy sons’’). Research has not addressed the ‘‘Sexy Sons’’ Hypothesis (e.g., as indicated by women’s perception of other women’s assessments of their partner’s attractiveness) in regards to female copulatory orgasm. We secured self-reports from 439 women in a committed, heterosexual relationship and investigated the relationships between women’s orgasm at last copulation and (1) women’s assessments of their partner’s attractiveness and (2) women’s perceptions of other women’s assessments of their partner’s attractiveness. The results indicate that women mated to more (vs. less) attractive men are more likely to report orgasm at last copulation, and this relationship is mediated by women’s perceptions of other women’s assessments of their partner’s attractiveness. We discuss the mediated relationship, note limitations of the research, and suggest future research directions.

Full study here.

Looking at the full study, women more often had orgasms with attractive men and high relationship satisfaction. However, when you look at both the attractiveness of the man and other women’s assessment of their mate the associated is eliminated. In other words, other women’s perception of their mate play a role in orgasm frequency too.  Women want what other women want.

Submission plays a role in marital satisfaction. Thus, ideally a wife’s man is a man that she finds attractive, that other women find attractive and she knows they do, and she has high marital satisfaction with (via her submission to him) as a masculine leader.

Nothing new or revolutionary in these parts, but always nice for some confirmation. Be attractive, don’t be unattractive. Be THE man.

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10 Responses to Male attractiveness, submission, and female orgasms

  1. Jonadab-the-Rechabite says:

    There is a chicken and the egg problem in the assumptions. Does a woman orgasm more because she finds the male masculine or does she find the male more masculine because he gives her orgasms?

    There appears to be a self-reinforcing cycle. When a wife shows contempt for her husband, she concomitantly finds him less satisfying sexually, leading to even more disdain for him as a man. However when she honors and fears him in accordance with the scriptures, she has better sex, which endears her to honor his masculinity.

    Ephesians 5:33 …and the wife see that she reverence (phobos ie fear) her husband.

    Paul places the duty of respect/reverence/fear of her husband on the wife, not on the husband. Sure he can be a better man and leader, but she alone is culpable for her own attitude and actions toward him. (The Bible provides no remedy to the husband to physically correct a contemptuous wife.)

    When she submits and reverences her husband her life is not only in more conformity with the Word of God, but because she is living according to God’s design she receives a multitude of blessings, orgasmic sex is but one. The more she reverences her husband the greater the joy in her life and the greater the joy in her life the more she reverences her husband for his role in her blessings. The thing that should not be overlooked is that the greater her respect and reverence for her husband the more likely he will grow in masculinity and leadership. She has a role in the formation of his masculinity, for better or worse and as he grows the greater satisfaction she feels in him.

    There are two spirals for christian wives, one leads to sanctification and joy by way of submission and reverence for her husband the other to conflict and curses by way of envy, contempt, discontent and independence.

  2. @ Jonadab-the-Rechabite

    There are two spirals for christian wives, one leads to sanctification and joy by way of submission and reverence for her husband the other to conflict and curses by way of envy, contempt, discontent and independence.

    Yep, it’s definitely a self reinforcing cycle. Good or evil.

    Choose one. Admit mistakes when you choose wrongly.

  3. Looking Glass says:

    Cycle Down or Cycle Up: there is no middle-path.

    Constant themes in the Bible, amazingly enough. 🙂

  4. This is really interesting, particularly the part about subjective masculinity, and also the part about self-reported masculinity being negatively correlated with female orgasm (lol).

    I just wanted to make one comment, because I know you’re single DS and perhaps marriage is not too far off? (And maybe there are other engaged or newlywed guys reading) Don’t take studies like these ones and freak out if your new wife doesn’t orgasm immediately – it is often something that needs to be “practiced” and “learned”. This is not a reflection on your masculinity!
    Trying to phrase this in an appropriate way…. a woman can be very aroused, and still find intercourse itself painful, when you are in those early days.

  5. Seriouslyserving

    Thanks for sharing this. I just got married slightly more than a month ago. Sexual intimacy and relations are a whole new world for us. It feels like a “maze” to me now.

  6. Zhuo says:

    Quick question, wouldn’t this be encouraging women to be covetous? I’m thinking more along the lines of the ‘women want what other women want.’ Just because something is the case (statistically, empirically), doesn’t necessarily mean it ‘ought’ to be the case.

    Also, I find the ‘false bravado’ information intriguing as I’m pretty A-type, and now this just reminds me to potentially tone it down.

  7. Chokingonredpills,

    Congrats on your marriage! Exciting times! 🙂
    If your wife would like someone to talk to re: specifics of sexual intimacy (like, practical ways to make it not hurt, etc.) she is welcome to hit me up on my blog contact page. There are certain things you just don’t want to talk about with the ladies you see at church every week!

  8. @ Zhuo

    Quick question, wouldn’t this be encouraging women to be covetous? I’m thinking more along the lines of the ‘women want what other women want.’ Just because something is the case (statistically, empirically), doesn’t necessarily mean it ‘ought’ to be the case.

    Well, I think it’s clear that as a Christian woman you’re not supposed to covet other people’s husbands. It also explains things like David and Bathsheba.

    It is interesting how it plays a role regardless of what we do.

  9. @ seriouslyserving

    Trying to phrase this in an appropriate way…. a woman can be very aroused, and still find intercourse itself painful, when you are in those early days.

    I am already personally aware because learning about the human body is one of my big interests.

    Thanks for the reminder, though! Wise advise is always welcome.

  10. BuenaVista says:

    Women who value sex and are attracted to their man, which also means he’s not sexually incompetent or a fat little doughboy like the guy in the more recent post, get off immediately.

    News at 11. The species endures. Homer nods and God says, Like that.

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