Women cannot love a man the way he wants to be loved

You have heard that it was said, ‘Women cannot love a man the way he wants to be loved.’ But I say to you that this secular wisdom is both a deception and misattribution.**

The reason that it is a deception is that the modern man, according to feminists, is to be brought up in the role of a woman. Men are taught to be like women, and women are taught to be like men. Men were also taught to want to be loved because women want to be loved. According to the Scriptures in Ephesians 5 and 1 Peter 3, men, especially in a marriage relationship, are to be respected. The desire of love from a woman as a man is a deception.

Likewise, this is also a fundamental misattribution because the unconditional love is part of the human condition that a man needs is only a love that God can meet. No woman can love a man according to what he needs in his soul because she is not God. Placing this burden on a wife will inevitably leave any man disappointed and disillusioned. A man must seek love that only God can give from God Himself through the spiritual disciplines of Scripture, prayer, meditation, fasting, and so on.

Therefore, this secular wisdom is false in a Christian world view.

** Written in the vein of Sermon on the Mount.

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14 Responses to Women cannot love a man the way he wants to be loved

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  2. Women cannot give unconditional love to a man. They are only able to give it to their children. Men give unconditional love to their woman, but the woman cannot grasp that for her man. It breaks down this way because in order for us to survive as humans, the men protected the women, who protected the children to keep the species going.

    If a man expects a woman to love him the way he loves her he will fail. A woman wants a strong, successful leader to have children with.

  3. Moi says:

    I think in some instances it is less about wanting that type of man to have children with, but to be able to show off that such a man chose her over others. Even if the man is only a strong and successful leader “in appearance” only.

  4. Good point. Women want to show off and “peacock” that they are better than other women. Women are always competing to be the best but a woman will sometimes accept a sub-par man because it gives the illusion that she is better than other women. Typical in the instances of a woman being a whore in her 20s to every Chad in the club to settle down with a beta bux type in her 30s. Its all for show.

  5. Elspeth says:

    No woman can love a man according to what he needs in his soul because she is not God. Placing this burden on a wife will inevitably leave any man disappointed and disillusioned. A man must seek love that only God can give from God Himself through the spiritual disciplines of Scripture, prayer, meditation, fasting, and so on.

    This is equally true if you reverse the sexes. Every person has a void inside that only God can meet.

    You know, I took some time this morning to read Song of Solomon. Fascinating, the passion between these two people, the way he seemed to delight in her responses to him, the way she pined for his lover for her. How long ago was that written? Not modern to be sure.

    For the record, it was never my intent to dismiss the importance of respect or the truth that a man cannot be fulfilled in his marriage if his wife offers affection but withholds true respect. I actually agree with that. My point is that all human beings are hesitant to obligatory, letter of the law love.
    A cursory reading of the Old Testament reveals that God didn’t even want that from his chosen people.

    I am at a complete loss as to why there is a need to paint anyone as less than fully human (can’t love but can mimic) as an explanation for the cultural sickness that has infected modern marriage.

  6. @ Elspeth

    This is equally true if you reverse the sexes. Every person has a void inside that only God can meet.

    Yep. But I’m writing to men, so I’m only talking about men.

    I am at a complete loss as to why there is a need to paint anyone as less than fully human (can’t love but can mimic) as an explanation for the cultural sickness that has infected modern marriage.

    This is incorrect. I answered it here:

    https://blendingame.wordpress.com/2016/07/25/husbands-and-wives-back-to-the-basics/#comment-1358

  7. Moi says:

    The “cultural sickness” is all due to PC. Everyone is a winner, nothing is ever your fault. We should be equal. You deserve more.

    People have been so brainwashed that when something is hard, or they fail at something, or they don’t have what they think they should, they don’t know how to deal with it and overreact. This is manifested by straying from their marriage, harming others by words or actions, stealing, and all sorts of other inappropriate behaviors.

    Our school systems have fostered this lack of self accountability in many ways. Participation trophies. Ribbons for coming in 127th place. Even in the earlier grades kids are no longer “stigmatized” by having points taken away for not properly spelling words. “It’s ok, we knew what she meant…”

    Lack of accountability will lead to lack of responsibility which leads to lack of humanity.

  8. Moi says:

    Ladies. This is how we feel when we really love you:

    And you have no idea how much it destroys us when you toss it aside…

  9. Jacob says:

    This is great:

    No woman can love a man according to what he needs in his soul because she is not God. Placing this burden on a wife will inevitably leave any man disappointed and disillusioned. A man must seek love that only God can give from God Himself through the spiritual disciplines of Scripture, prayer, meditation, fasting, and so on.

    I suspect that most men *want* to be loved the way the lost boy inside wants to be loved. Boys need the safe lap and bosom of the mother comforter as well as the authority and promise of the father hero. A boy who has been well loved by his parents will not crave it as an adult. He’ll also know there are different kinds of love and that men are made to provide one and receive another. Men who are neglected or wounded by a parent as children will seek and expect love in all the ways parental love fell short – from either men or women.

    The problem, of course, is that no-one can provide the love to a man in adulthood that was missing from his boyhood, not even his own parents. A spouse especially, no matter how desirous of love and care for him, is not the the parent providing the missing love at the right time and will never succeed at this. No person can do this, nor is it wise to try.

    The love a man *needs* can only come from the One who knows the deep childhood pain of his heart and all the painful consequences since. God is the only One who is ready, willing and able to do this. The Christian mission in this sense is to articulate what needs to happen so that the love a man *wants* and the love he *needs* are synonymous. Obviously, essential to this process is to learn how to differentiate between the way God has equipped men and women to love, and how they work together to reflect God’s love, then practice it until it’s perfect.

  10. @ Moi

    I mean I could see the sentiment behind it.

    But that song is pretty much about worshiping women.

  11. Moi says:

    I don’t see it as worshiping women, but more as worshiping a specific woman for what she is in his life. Less like worshiping God or other dirty, but more like a deep respect for what she brings to his life. Although I do believe that the reactions to a loss of faith and a loss of love, have close parallels for men. Both are a loss that effects our core being, that are not the same as for women, IMHO.

    YMMV

  12. Moi says:

    I hate auto correct. I meant diety, not dirty…

  13. @ Moi

    The Biblical term is ‘honoring’ in 1 Peter 3.

  14. Ame says:

    “Likewise, this is also a fundamental misattribution because the unconditional love is part of the human condition that a man needs is only a love that God can meet. No woman can love a man according to what he needs in his soul because she is not God. Placing this burden on a wife will inevitably leave any man disappointed and disillusioned. A man must seek love that only God can give from God Himself through the spiritual disciplines of Scripture, prayer, meditation, fasting, and so on.”

    Excellent.

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