edit: Donal threw up a response post on women avoiding sacrifice. Sacrifice fits better as the main idea, so I changed the wording from here on where it was applicable.
I was trying to think of ways to make the this post into something elaborate, but the title really just explains itself. Women hate sacrifice when it involves suffering, and by extension women don’t handle sacrifice well.
- Divorce rate is 70% women initiated. Because women are unhappy.
- Husbands persist through contentious and shrewish wives in marriage taking on more responsibilities (e.g. choreplay, childcare), while women can’t handle being unhappy.
- Pastors and wives with unbelieving husbands will go out of their way to make up stuff like “intelligent submission” so they don’t have to submit. Then the sad part is when “intelligent submission” is defended instead of admitting it is being used to rebel against husbands and against the Scriptures.
- Christian men and husbands would rather cave to women when they are unhappy rather than to tell them it is a normal part of the Christian walk. “All who desire to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted” 2:Timothy 3:12. Suffering and sacrifice is normal for Christians. We do a lot of things in this life that we don’t want to because they should be done.
- Women are coddled by society, praised and pushed for college and credentialism. Men are put down and no on cares about them. When women fail they are helped as much as possible, especially by white knights. When men fail no one really cares that they are suffering except perhaps their parents.
I find it interesting that when women step out from under authority — their father’s or their husband’s — they expose themselves to more sin and suffering. However, in our culture this is lauded. Likewise, fathers and husbands are also encouraged to allow their wives and daughters to step out from under authority under the guise of “freedom” and “not being controlling.”
However, when asked to sacrifice themselves to bear responsibility, they vehemently shy away from it and victimize themselves. All of this sin, suffering, and woe that women experience is blamed on the fathers and husbands. Either for not protecting them (when they went off on their own volition) or as their fault because everything bad a woman does is under the bad leadership of a man. Sadly, this is more prevalent in the Church than secular culture.
I had always wondered why Christian wives can ignore the plain-reading Scripture of 1 Peter 3, especially if their husband is an unbeliever or a “back-sliding” Christian. There have been numerous examples of this, including recent posts.
1 Peter 3:1 In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, 2 as they observe your chaste and [a]respectful behavior. 3 Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; 4 but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; 6 just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right [b]without being frightened by any fear.
Now I see the light.
Christian wives in response to suffering absolutely hate sacrificing — denying their own will — to display Christ-like behavior. They would rather manipulate the situation around them to be better by their own volition than try it God’s way. They would rather be self-righteous in rebellion and false humble about not being a doormat.
The irony is that they are only heaping more sin and suffering on themselves in the long run by not sucking it up now and sacrificing like Christ did for them. The light you shine when you suffer and sacrifice for Christ can change hearts. Self righteousness and false humility can’t.