Ten traps that trip up the trying to be submissive wife

I was sifting through some things on my computer, and I ended up stumbling on this image which I don’t know where I got it from. It may have been on a Christian woman’s blog or somewhere out in the wider manosphere or men’s blog. Obviously, the original is from Elizabeth on the blog referenced at the bottom.

Wives always get confused when they ask “how” or “when” they are being disrespectful. Well, here’s a good list.


A lot of these things are both attitudes and actions. A woman/wife can fix all of her actions, but if her attitude comes off bad too then it’s pretty much the same. Respect is an attitude that is translated into how you act.

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11 Responses to Ten traps that trip up the trying to be submissive wife

  1. SnapperTrx says:

    It seems that many Christian women live with the concept of “just respectful enough”, meaning they don’t openly defy their husbands, throw fits or do anything outrageous. I consider this to be more of a position of indifference than respect. Women respect their male bosses at work, even if they don’t like them. They consult them, they adhere to rules, they do their best to avoid getting in trouble by being obedient – this is more than they will do for their husbands! Respect is not a neutral position from disrespect! Disrespect is encapsulated in actions and attitude, its an active position. No one is called disrespectful who does nothing either way, you must be BEING disrespectful. In like manner women must be BEING respectful. Its a conscious decision, an ACTIVE position. It takes work and self control – things most modern day women greatly lack or view as causing them to be “caged”. Heaven forbid a woman temper her free spirit ™, given her by God, right?

  2. feeriker says:

    I can very easily envision most “Christian” women today taking a copy of that list, printing it up as a wall poster or a desktop plaque, then pointing to it and proudly saying “yep, that’s me, alright!” with a sardonic smirk. Just like their non-believing feminist sisters.

  3. Ame says:

    i was actually thinking just the opposite, that i’ve failed at all of them 😦

  4. SnapperTrx says:

    I think your good. Very few women are self-aware to the point that they will confront their flaws. Those who get props in my book.

  5. You know, you write about wives and submission a lot for a masculinity blogger. 😉

    But I’m with Ame, this list is very convicting!
    I was actually thinking about it some more today, after reading it this morning. And as I looked at the couch and living room floor covered in muffin crumbs after the kids’ morning tea, I remembered that my husband has asked me before not to let the kids eat in the lounge room. It’s a habit I have not bothered to change, despite him making his wishes known. (And, ironically, obeying him there would actually make my life easier – less mess for me to clean up!)

    I think this might be a good list to print off and stick in my prayer journal, so thanks for sharing!

  6. Jonadab-the-Rechabite says:

    You know, you write about wives and submission a lot for a masculinity blogger.😉

    It’s like at West point they be talking about the importance of troop discipline and chain of command. They should probably just leave that to the enlisted soldiers to work out on their own – for the sake of troop moral. What lunacy! What is truly strange is that someone might think that it is inappropriate to speak of characteristics of submission and strategies to ensure it when they find find themselves swimming in a sea of mutiny. Women say they want strong leaders in their husbands and chafe when leadership is trained, that is schizophrenic and unstable – that is what husbands have to learn to deal with.

  7. Lost Patrol says:

    If a woman does these ten things, she has escaped and triumphed over an abusive enslavement, according to the feminist model. If she stops doing these ten things, she has likely made herself into a contender for Proverbs 31 woman. Her husband (the abusive enslaver) tends to praise and honor her, looking around him and seeing he has received a blessing few other men can hope for.

  8. Jonadab,
    I didn’t say it was inappropriate. On the contrary, I find articles like this quite helpful. But they do read more like how tos for wives than discussion of strategies for husbands.

  9. Wizard Prang says:

    That isn’t “Ten traps that trip up the trying to be submissive wife”, it is straight-up disrespect.

    Ephesians 5:30

  10. @ Wizard Prang

    True. It is about respect.

    Respectful heavily influences submission. I think that is the underlying point(s)?

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