One of the posts I’ve been thinking about recently is understanding godly value.
So too all extrinsic value is measured solely through stewardship of what we have been given. A wife’s stewardship is measured through her role and responsibility as a wife. A husband’s stewardship is measured through his role and responsibilities as a husband. Each of these are different in the Scriptures.
A wife gains nothing through usurping her husband’s roles and responsibility. Indeed, it can be said that by usurping her husband’s roles and responsibilities she neglects her own. Thus, she is being irresponsible with what she has been given in addition to being rebellious.
This is why it is extremely important for husbands and wives to know their own roles and responsibilities within a marriage.
- A wife gains nothing for loving her husband. However, she will gain much from respecting her husband.
- A husband gains nothing by respecting his wife. Rather, he gains much by loving his wife.
- A wife gains nothing by allowing her husband to lead. However, she gains much from following his lead and submitting to him.
- A husband gains nothing by letting his wife by the head or being passive. Yet, he gains much by being the head of his wife and his family.
P.S. Titus 2 commands women to ‘philandros’ their husbands not ‘agape’ them.
The “Do your job” meme of Bill Belichick is an interesting one.
For those of you who don’t follow any football at all, Belichick is the coach of the Patriots and has won 5 superbowls with Tom Brady. He’s pretty much considered one of the best coaches of all time now if not the best given his consistency in getting to the playoffs, championship games, and getting to if not winning the superbowl. No other team has had as much sustained success. He’s famous for saying “Do your job” to his players because he gives them assignments to do when playing. If each individual does his assignment correctly, the team plays well together. If any one of them are slacking off, the team can look to be in disarray and dysfunctional.
This is a secular example, but I think it proves the point well.
Christians are followers of Christ. We are to follow what Jesus commanded us to do via the Scriptures. The roles and responsibilities of a husband and wife are part of this for some Christians. In effect, if you know what your roles and responsibilities are then you just need to “do your job.” Obey Jesus even if you don’t feel like it or your motivation is low. Obey Jesus even if it’s hard or you get criticized or whatever thing tries to get in your way from doing it.
Learning obedience is really like a sheep and a shepherd. It’s easy to wander off and do whatever we want to do. There’s temptations all around for us to get distracted and fall away. Our focus needs to be laser sharp on our shepherd so we don’t miss anything. Discipline. Consistency. Do your job.
This is one of the things that drives me to be a better husband, and to see my wife and hopefully future family serve the Lord. Talking is great, but walking is hard.