Always remember the problem the Duluth model was created to solve was violent, abusive, controlling, deadbeat dads.
One thing I’ve been mulling over recently is the question: is there such a thing as a deadbeat dad or deadbeat mom in the first place?
We know that many women are often attracted and have sex with a lot of so-called “low lifes” — men that do what they want but can’t hold a steady job, are generally irresponsible, and don’t really care about supporting and/or caring for a mom and child. The women still sleep with them and have a kid anyway and expect them to pay child support, and if they don’t they have the fall back of welfare or family support.
It is reasonable to expect that these deadbeats would not even attempt to shoulder any responsibility for their actions given their character. Pinning another responsibility on them when they already shirk responsibilities is laughable. Every time I see men or women trying to shame deadbeats it’s a waste of time. They don’t care about taking on that responsibility when they weren’t responsible in the first place.
This leads to the conclusion that anyone who expects child support to support a family is dumb and unwise.
In other words, there is no such thing as a deadbeat. Don’t have sex with people of dubious moral character and who are irresponsible. Otherwise, you only have yourself to blame.
Also, inb4 you’re victim blaming.