One thing I’ve been mulling over recently is womens’ addiction to bad boys.
The first theory that is prominent to me is that women are attracted to masculinity. Unfortunately, given the current social climate, bad boys display a lot more of it than nice guys. There’s very few masculine “good men” so to speak nowadays for several reasons. Husbands and fathers are disrespected and delegitimatized, and bad boys are more like to be confident, aggressive, and take on risk than nice guys. All of which are masculine behaviors.
The second theory that I’ve been mulling over more is the temptation theory. Eve, in the garden, was tempted by Satan to want to be “more like God” and her sin caused her to be punished such that under the rule of her husband which she tries to usurp. Hence, womens’ fascination with bad boys is to be “more like God” trying to exert control over him to “fix” him.
These two things are not mutually exclusive, so it can be both.
The first theory has the most merit to me, although it does not necessarily explain all of the cases where women have fascination with bad boys. For example, some women will constantly choose or cheat with bad boys even if they have access to high status, confident masculine leaders. There’s no shortage of chronic serial cheaters.
Combined with the second theory, this would explain most, if not all, of the instances in which women will gravitate to bad boys despite access to “good masculine leaders.” This includes womens’ fascination with the “ultimate fantasy bad boys” like vampires, werewolves or even rapists and murders, where even if they are with someone or something evil they can be with them and influence them to be good. Take Disney’s Beauty and the Beast as a prime example. Other examples include 50 Shades, and whatever vampire and werewolf movies were loved primarily by women in the past few decades.
In other words, womens’ attraction to “bad boys” is two fold:
- Women are attracted to masculinity traits and other traits like power, status, looks, etc.
- Women are tempted toward bad men who they think they can control and fix. That “apple” or “bad boy” sure is appealing.
Logically, this agrees with what men analogous experience in terms of attraction to women:
- Men are attracted to beauty and femininity.
- Men are tempted by seductive, loose women like prostitutes and whores.
Both women and men can be educated that it is a bad idea to be tempted by certain populations like bad boys or whores because it will lead to ruin. However, they cannot be “changed” or “educated” to the extent that they’re not attracted to certain masculine or feminine traits in the opposite sex respectively.
I’m pretty sure that these two theories combined represent all of the nature of womens’ sexuality, but I’m open to other options if there is evidence to support them.