Funnily, enough, I agreed with much of this article over the break up of Mac Miller and Ariana Grande.
Mac Miller and Ariana Grande‘s relationship fell unusually under the tabloid radar for the majority of their two-year run. It was their breakup in May that finally captured public attention, especially since it was followed eight days later by Miller crashing his car while intoxicated and, just weeks after that, Grande getting engaged to SNL star Pete Davidson.
“It’s the most heartbreaking thing happening in Hollywood,” wrote Twitter user Elijah Flint back in May. Flint, like many presumed fans of Miller (as well as casual tabloid followers), didn’t find the heartbreak in Miller’s continuous battle with substance abuse — a battle he explored in his music and spoke openly about for years — but rather in the fact that a woman like Grande could, according to Flint, callously transform from being one man’s muse to finding love with someone else.
Grande eventually posted a long comment on twitter:
how absurd that you minimize female self-respect and self-worth by saying someone should stay in a toxic relationship because he wrote an album about them, which btw isn’t the case (just Cinderella is ab me). I am not a babysitter or a mother and no woman should feel that they need to be. I have cared for him ad tried to support his sobriety & prayed for his balance for years (and always will of course) but shaming/blaming women for a man’s inability to keep his shit together is a very major problem. let’s please stop doing that. of course I didn’t share about how hard or scary it was.
Miller eventually killed himself over a suspect drug overdose, and apparently people went crazy against Grande on twitter and Instagram.
The most Grande could be accused of is being very ignorant about entering another relationship right away after breaking up with a previous one. This is similar to shades of Asia Argento and Anthony Bourdain, where Asia was spotted with another man and Anthony committed suicide a few days later IIRC.
It’s pretty clear that both Miller and Bourdain literally thought of the women they were with as their “angel” and put them up on such a high pedestal that they couldn’t live with them once they left them. This is the exact wrong way to be in a relationship with a woman. The majority of the blame should go to these men for doing that.
Grande is right that she is not his babysitter or his mother. Nor should she be. In fact, it’s very unwise in the first place to enter relationships with anyone who has red flags like this.
The real question, though, is what if the roles had been reversed? The woman was struggling with drugs and addiction issues, and the man left the woman to be engaged. We’d probably see riots from all sides against the man.