One of the biggest and most overlooked concepts that the arranged marriage, courtship models, or dating models do not cover is that one must opt in to the Biblical framework for marriage.
As we have noted before, the Biblical commands to the husband and wife are unconditional. The husband is to be the head, protect, provide, love, cherish and nourish his wife. The wife is to respect, submit and obey, and be affectionate toward her husband. These commands are irrespective of any bad behavior or sins committed by the opposite spouse.
The problem with attraction (or romantic love) being the major component of a dating/courtship/marriage is that these things are conditional. Attraction may wax and wane depending on how fleeting the feelings of the husband or the wife or if certain mistakes or incidences happen such as becoming lazy, overweight, bad behavior, or sin. Feelings tend to be emphasized at the cost of duty and fidelity.
Arranged marriage is a bit more nebulous because there are varying ways that works. In some cultures, the husband and wife don’t meet each other until they’re getting married. In some others, like Jewish culture, they met at least a few times and the potential husband/wife had some type of veto power if they really didn’t like the other potential spouse.
Although arranged marriage probably results in a somewhat closer mimicry of Biblical marriage, a couple must still opt into the Biblical framework for the husband to love and cherish unconditionally and the wife to respect and submit unconditionally regardless of it the spouse goes on a bad behavior streak or even off of the reservation.
Getting husbands and wives to do that is hard, but that’s because humans like to weasel out of responsibilities.