The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint: A Christian Man’s Guide to Attraction, Relationships, and Marriage in a Messed-up World

The book is now up on Amazon!

The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint: A Christian Man’s Guide to Attraction, Relationships, and Marriage in a Messed-up World

Print edition and Kindle Edition.

Thank you to all of the contributors mentioned in the book and those who chose to remain anonymous. I could not have written some of the chapters without you. Also, thank you to the publishing team and the go-between people I used to get this professionally done.

Book description:

Because many young men and husbands do not have good masculine role models, it can be difficult for them to understand what a godly relationship and marriage might look like. In today’s culture, there is a lack of fathers passing down teaching to their sons, and, in many cases, what the Church teaches is more assimilated with secular culture, resulting in ineffective discipleship. Even seemingly good things like “purity culture” can have negative influences on marriage.

The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint aims to remedy some of these areas by giving Christian men the knowledge and discernment needed to have successful, godly relationships and marriages.

This book covers five distinct sections:

  • Highlight problem areas of modern culture and how it has influenced the Church.
  • Foundation Bible verses and their implications for relationships and marriage.
  • Addressing any incorrect notions surrounding marriage, attraction, and the pitfalls of relationships.
  • Ways single men can develop themselves to head a relationship and, eventually, a marriage.
  • Ways married men can learn to obey God, become an effective head in marriage, and influence their wives and children toward godliness.

This book is not meant as a be-all end-all solution to dating, relationships, and marriage as the Bible gives considerable freedom with how to approach them in a godly manner. Instead, it is written in the style of Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. Study the Scriptures, pray, use wisdom and discernment, and get additional godly counsel as you develop into a godly man who chooses the path of relationships and marriage.

Overall, like I’ve said previously: I’m pretty happy with how it turned out. There’s obviously more that can be added to any book like this, but this is an excellent primer on many of the ins and outs of the Bible and relationships from singleness to dating to engagement to marriage. Maybe there can eventually be a 2nd book or 2nd edition if things turn out well with this one.

For the record, although I come down hard on some prominent Christian pastors in the book, I do think that they are doing a good job in the kingdom in other areas. However, the issues of dating, marriage, and of men and women are areas where a lot of pastors have a lot of blind spots for various reasons such as blending culture with the Bible or chivalry or attempting to give practical advice that may have worked in the 70s or 80s but is not effective today.

This blog has come a long way in the several years that I’ve been here. I’ve gone from single to married myself in this crazy messed-up world. I’ve gone from being mentored and discipled to helping mentor and disciple others. I can’t say that I have had perfect relationships or marriage, but we are both working toward sanctification, discipleship, and being fruitful in the kingdom. There is much effective advice that works in for the Christian man where it is very hard to find in today’s Churches.

These topics are some of the big things that has been neglected in the Church especially with young men today, and I hope that this book can help remedy some of those issues.

edit: If you do end up picking up a copy, Amazon reviews (good or bad) are much appreciated. It lets people know that a book may be worth checking out.

Dalrock’s post on it.

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28 Responses to The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint: A Christian Man’s Guide to Attraction, Relationships, and Marriage in a Messed-up World

  1. Zhou says:

    Good to see it’s finally ready! Keep it up!

  2. Jacob says:

    Great to see it’s out. Will purchase a copy for review then maybe order a stack.

  3. Novaseeker says:

    Nice — congratulations on the publication!

  4. OneWay says:

    Congrats! Look forward to reading.

  5. fuzziewuzziebear says:

    Good to hear! May it become a staple.

  6. SirHamster says:

    Doh, just bought a bunch of stuff from Amazon, would like the paper copy. Will get it soon.

    I expect it to be useful to introduce some RP concepts to my pastor.

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  8. Dalrock says:

    Congratulations! My apologies on the delay in getting a post up.

  9. feeriker says:

    I’ll be grabbing a copy very soon! Thanks, DS!

  10. American says:

    I don’t use Amazon. Can I purchase the book in some other way? Thank you.

  11. @ American

    Trying to think of a good alternative but drawing some blanks.

  12. American says:

    Perhaps a few could be placed on Ebay or even Bonanza for those of us who are ready to purchase this book but won’t use Amazon, Facebook, Twitter, or even search engines like Google or Bing preferring duckduckgo for political reasons. It also might be a good idea for someone to let Gab users know this book is available given much of their user-base are a ready made audience for a book such as this one. Thank you for considering all of this.

  13. @ American

    I’ll look into that. Very busy at the moment with life, so it may have to get put on the back burner for a bit.

  14. Cane Caldo says:

    Congrats, DS! A book is an accomplishment. May God bless you and others through it.

  15. ikr says:

    DS: I am also a non-Amazon user. Count me into the alternative purchasing option with American

  16. Just finished the Kindle edition. You are certainly using the talents God gave you to further his kingdom. Well done brother!

  17. @ old-fashioned-man

    Thanks. If you can put a review that would be helpful, but no worries if you can’t.

  18. I did that first and bought two copies. One for my son and one to loan out.

  19. @ old-fashioned-man

    Much appreciated.

  20. Michael S. Foster says:

    I just bought it for Kindle. I look forward to reading it.

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  22. Sparkciti says:

    The Kindle edition is unavailable now, is there any other platform to buy the ebook from?

  23. @ Spark

    Should still be available. Just click over to the Kindle instead of paperback.

  24. Sparkciti says:

    @ Deep strength. I realized the Kindle edition is not available for my region (Nigeria)

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