Teachable is one of the least discussed traits that should be high up on the list.
The evidence for it is obvious:
Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.
The purpose of a husband’s love for his wife is for her sanctification. It’s not to placate her feelings or make her feel loved but so that she becomes more like Jesus. More often than not, this type of love will make her feel hurt or bad in the moment because it means correcting her if she’s gone off track.
This command via the Scripture is also a mirror of the failure of the first Adam with Jesus fulfilling the role of second Adam.
Genesis 2:15 Then the Lord God took the man and put him into the garden of Eden to cultivate it and keep it. 16 The Lord God commanded the man, saying, “From any tree of the garden you may eat freely; 17 but from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat from it you will surely die.”
Genesis 3:17 Then to Adam He said, “Because you have listened to the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree about which I commanded you, saying, ‘You shall not eat from it’;
Instead of reiterating God’s command to Eve that they shouldn’t eat from the fruit of the tree, he went along with his wife and disobeyed God instead.
Hence, the God-given responsibility is reiterated to us as husbands in the New Covenant in Jesus: you are still responsible for helping your wife obey God’s commands to help play a role in her sanctification.
This mirrors the Christian walk where we are made co-heirs and co-workers by Jesus to fulfill His command to spread the gospel and make disciples of all nations. The commands prior to the fall in Genesis are re-purposed for Jesus’ kingdom in both the Church and marriage.
It is very wise that you only marry a wife who is teachable. If you marry a wife that does not respond to correction or criticism that’s heaping trouble upon your own head. If they don’t respond to correction or criticism, it’s unlikely that they’re also going to want to obey God or the Bible to respect and submit either.