Men Have No Friends and Women Bear the Burden is hilarious

Seen this article go around the web in multiple forms.

Toxic masculinity—and the persistent idea that feelings are a “female thing”—has left a generation of straight men stranded on emotionally-stunted island, unable to forge intimate relationships with other men. It’s women who are paying the price.

You can appreciate the irony.

Feminism states men should be like women which means be “sensitive” and “express their emotions.” Yet when they start doing it, they’re labeled emotionally stunted (compared to women as the standard) and unable to forge intimate relationships with other men. Thus, women have to “bear the burden” of these emotionally stunted men.

Perhaps because these “other men” don’t want to hang around with men act like women.

This is yet another “problem” created by feminism, but attempted to be framed by blaming it on the patriarchy or toxic masculinity.

Some of the funnier excerpts:

Kelly’s story, though extreme, is a common example of modern American relationships. Women continue to bear the burden of men’s emotional lives, and why wouldn’t they? For generations, men have been taught to reject traits like gentleness and sensitivity, leaving them without the tools to deal with internalized anger and frustration. Meanwhile, the female savior trope continues to be romanticized on the silver screen (thanks Disney!), making it seem totally normal—even ideal—to find the man within the beast.

Unlike women, who are encouraged to foster deep platonic intimacy from a young age, American men—with their puffed up chests, fist bumps, and awkward side hugs—grow up believing that they should not only behave like stoic robots in front of other men, but that women are the only people they are allowed to turn to for emotional support—if anyone at all. And as modern relationships continue to put pressure on “the one” to be The Only One (where men cast their wives and girlfriends to play best friend, lover, career advisor, stylist, social secretary, emotional cheerleader, mom—to him, their future kids, or both—and eventually, on-call therapist minus the $200/hour fee), this form of emotional gold digging is not only detrimental to men, it’s exhausting an entire generation of women.

This is one of the hallmarks of the inverted roles in marriage.

Instead of the man as the head of the wife, the wife becomes the “head” of the man. But since there is no such thing as that, it becomes very similar to another relationship: a mother and her child.

One can only wonder why women become unhappy when they selectively choose to “mother” their man rather than respect him.

But unlike women in our mothers’ generation, Gen X’ers and millennials are starting to hold their partners accountable—or they’re simply leaving. Ruby Marez, a comedian in her early 30’s living in Los Angeles, got so fed up with functioning as an unpaid therapist that she gave her then-boyfriend of five years an ultimatum: Get a shrink or we’re done. “He had no excuse not to go since his job paid for it. But here I was, a struggling freelancer with no benefits, always finding a way to prioritize therapy and yoga.” He refused for two years, then finally agreed after multiple arguments—but there was a catch; only if she found the therapist and set up the appointments, which she did. He rarely went, says Marez, often blaming the therapist for scheduling conflicts. A little wiser, Marez broke up with her most recent boyfriend of two years after he said he didn’t need therapy, because he had her for that.

You get what you deserve is a pretty apt statement.

If you’re a woman and want to be the one in control in a relationship, you should expect to attract men who want you to be in control.

Surprise surprise.

“Men are taught that feelings are a female thing,” muses Johnson, whose husband often complains about her wanting to “talk deep.” Though Johnson brags about how wonderful her husband is—grateful he doesn’t exhaust her with his neediness like a lot of her married friends—she does wish men were encouraged to examine and explore their emotions in a safe setting, like therapy, before they boil over. “I’m tired of having to replace another broken bedside table because he didn’t realize he needed to talk about his feelings,” she admits.

Men were never taught to not have feelings. This is just feminist projection that since men rarely emoted they think we’re taught not have feelings.

Men were taught to process emotions internally and to have good discipline and self control. This goes along with their nature.

It’s only after men aren’t taught to process their emotions internally and the lack of good male role models that you have men who can’t process their emotions correctly and lead to outbursts of anger and immaturity. Yet also somehow blamed on traditional masculinity.

There’s some other funny stuff in there that you can only shake your head at, but it’s pretty obvious that this is a problem of feminism’s making. They really want to complain about the men they created with their own philosophy while unloading the blame onto other things.

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12 Responses to Men Have No Friends and Women Bear the Burden is hilarious

  1. Eduardo the Magnificent says:

    So, are these women going to allow male-only spaces to return, in order to relieve the burden off those poor, tired shoulders and give men a safe space to forge male relationships?

    We already know the answer.

  2. AngloSaxon says:

    I want my man to express his feelings and be vulnerable!

    Now my man his dumping all his emotional needs on me and he is giving me less attention! Send help!

    Bed made lie in it ladies.

  3. Derek Ramsey says:

    “Men Have No Friends and Women Bear the Burden”

    “Meteor destroys life on Earth, women hardest hit”

  4. Are we sure this isn’t a hidden parody piece? Because it kinda reads like one.

  5. Spike says:

    If “Kelly” and Ruby Marez were married and not in wasteful, useless “boyfriend-of-x-years” relationships, then they would have found themselves supporting a husband who would be supporting them back. Husbands look to a future of family and children and subvert / control their various feelings for the sake of family and career – a fact lost on feminists, who are incapable of looking at life as a man sees it.
    Instead, they picked detachable hipster boyfriends in their 20s in relationships that have no future and got the emotional baggage that came with it.
    Enjoy the writing fodder now, ladies, and cats as companions in the future.

  6. Jacob says:

    Are we sure this isn’t a hidden parody…

    Anything asserted about men in womens magazines is a parody. Nothing sells better to bored and discontented women than a bit of gynocentric blather and a free glass of whine.

    Being Harpers Bazaar, it’s probably just crafted clickbait. Victim culture loves to be fed this kind of offal. Advertisers pay for their attention, not for telling the truth.

    Womens discontent has always been a lucrative. Feminism has been a cash cow for the advertising business from the outset. Retailers too. Pretty much anyone who knows how to tap into it.

  7. Michael says:

    GK Chesterton says on this topic:
    “…the thread of comradeship [he defines this as impersonal male friendship] and conversation must be protected because it is so frivolous. It must be held sacred, it must not be snapped, because it is not worth tying together again. It is exactly because argument is idle that men (I mean males) must take it seriously; for when (we feel), until the crack of doom, shall we have so delightful a difference again?”

  8. Wizard Prang says:

    “Men were never taught to not have feelings. This is just feminist projection that since men rarely emoted they think we’re taught not have feelings.”

    Men have feelings; they are just not very good at talking about them. This is because we tend to spend less time “in our heads”, trying to figure what we are feeling and why. It also explains why so many women gravitate towards psychology.

    For men, feelings are like a car. A vehicle that gets us from one place to another. For women, feelings are like a house; they live there.

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  10. Sherry Marconi says:

    Aside from the fact that the article props up self-serving gender aggrandizement on the persistent ecological error that informs most mass communication about aggregated cultural groups, the article advances implausible claims.

    Now, the headline tells us this friendliness is not a problem with gay men. Somehow the sexual promiscuity that is statistically associated with homosexual preferences ( longer cumulative lifetime periods of new partner acquisition ) results in statistically better balanced men, emotionally.
    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3334840/

    That would support the premise that straight men suffer shame, because more shameless sex would mean less shame. We would be left to conjecture, based on content of media reports amplifying advocacy group claims, that more gay men kill themselves per capita solely because of bullying by straight males.
    (https://www.ajpmonline.org/article/S0749-3797(18)32436-X/fulltext)

    Simply occupying the status declared as “normative” by nature of it being the orientation most men prefer might be seen as bullying. Never mind that consistent rejection by other males whom they desire sexually could be involved. Apparently men have a moral obligation to put out for other men, whereas men are not entitled to inquire of women about their partner-seeking interests unless the woman somehow invites the inquiry.

    More implausible yet is the claim that

    “The persistent idea that seeking therapy is a form of weakness has produced a generation of men suffering from symptoms like anger, irritability, and aggressiveness,”

    Exactly which generation of men was it that suffered from that persistent idea that therapy is a form of weakness?

    Greatest genners?
    The Silent Generation?
    Baby Boomers?
    Gen Xers?
    Millennials?

    Whichever “generation” the Bizarre writer seems to refer to must have suddenly stopped taking seeking therapy that was widely available to a prior generation of men. I know WWII vets were big time talk therapy fans. Not. Nor were Silent Generation men before them. It just did not happen. The writer is spewing utter falsehood.

    And “aggressiveness” is more prevalent in some current generation than it was in some familiar prior generation? Oh my. Where are the facts?

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