So “trickle truth” is one of the concepts where:
- A woman (or man for that matter) is confronted about something in their past.
- They provide you an answer.
- You find out later that their answer was only partly true and it was much worse than you had initially thought from that answer
- You confront them again and they tell you more about what happened
- You think it’s over, but this cycle can repeat multiple times.
This often happens with a woman (or man’s) sexually history where they try to hide what they did in their past because they think it would make them look bad to potential romantic interests. Which is true by some measure.
There are multiple problems with this. Lying or lying by omission. It actually makes you look worse when you’re found out. Often times people don’t take this serious enough as a red flag.
In general, what we learn from this in the Bible is that truth is paramount.
If you truly are transformed and forgiven in Christ, you are willing to admit your sins as a testimony for Christ. Paul when he was Saul murdered many believers in Christ: a fact he freely admits in multiple epistles and claims he was the worst of sinners but God’s grace was sufficient for him. No matter how “bad” the truth sounds, if it’s part of your testimony of how God saved you then it’s a credit to Him.
If you think you have to hide something from others, your life or perhaps that area of your life has not be transformed by Christ. You see this much more from cultural Christians than you do from true Christians.
This is why any sort of trickle truth at least from a Christian woman or man is a red flag. This is doubly so if you are thinking about potentially marrying someone who you are getting trickle truth from.