Frame is no frame without a mission

Ran across this question on one of the RP reddits.

For example, a guy I know from college went into a STEM field. He is now married and working a steady 9-5 job that he likes. His wife owns a photography business, and he has become a significant partner in her business, assisting with shoots and stuff in his free time. Additionally, they are raising one biological child and several foster children, and any free time not spent with his wife’s business is completely consumed raising the kids. Unfortunately, I don’t know him well enough to get his honest opinion of the situation, but does this sound like a man with a solid frame? Or is he living in his wife’s frame?

To put it another way, what would have to be true for you to be the guy in this situation and not be living in your wife’s frame? Is it a matter of him making the choice vs her making the choice? (“You run your business and I’ll help out”) Or is being a “helper” of this sort not acceptable in any circumstance?

Frame is not what you do. It’s the meaning behind what you are doing. Frame is driven by mission and purpose.

If a man thinks it’s important in this stage of life to focus on growing multiple streams of income (one of which is growing his wife’s started business) and raising the kids in a godly manner to leverage that for God in both short and long term that’s a great thing.

If a man is pressured by his wife into doing stuff he doesn’t want to do but does it anyway, that’s a bad thing.

One is putting God first and being the head and the other is going against that.

If we want to understand this more thoroughly we can go back to some of Jesus’ analogies. It’s out of the heart the mouth speaks or that we do anything. There’s many people in Church that are there that “do the right thing” but their hearts are not in it or they are doing it for the wrong reasons (e.g. they are fearful of going hell and trying to work for their salvation). If we contrast this to a true believer, they would know that they are justified through their faith in Jesus and that God wants us to do good works to model His love for us (e.g. Romans 5:8 God shows His love for us in this, that while we were yet sinners Christ died for us).

Of course, we can generally judge a tree by it’s fruit, but it’s always a good thing to dig into the underlying motivations and desires of why we are trying to do something. Does it align with God’s Word or not? Are we living in fear or are we living in God’s peace and joy?

We always want to align with God and the right things for the right reasons. The right thing for the right reasons are always grounded in mission and purpose. Without those two things, you are going to be blown here and there by the wind as motivations easily change without that deep seated purpose driving everything.

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4 Responses to Frame is no frame without a mission

  1. Sharkly says:

    …wrong reasons (e.g. they are fearful of going hell…

    The fear of God, specifically His ability to eternally damn you to hell, is always good/wise and is commanded by God. The fear of God and eternal damnation is never wrong. It will help you to flee from evil.

    Matthew 10:28 And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear Him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.
    Luke 12:4
    And I say unto you my friends, Be not afraid of them that kill the body, and after that have no more that they can do. 5 But I will forewarn you whom ye shall fear: Fear Him, which after He hath killed hath power to cast into hell; yea, I say unto you, Fear Him.

    Proverbs 9:10a The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom… (Psalm 111:10a, Proverbs 1:7, and Etc.)

    To tell people that the fear of the Lord and his ability to cast you into hell is ever a wrong reason to consider when deciding your behavior, is to try to steal even the beginning of wisdom from them.

    Don’t get me started on my enmity with churchian preachers who teach a false god who is not to be feared. Hopefully you’re not one of them. And, no, the word “fear” was not mistranslated by every single Biblical scholar for the last 500 years. It is just Satan’s minions in the apostate churches today that want to rob God of the fear He rightly deserves, and rob Christians of the very beginning of wisdom.

  2. @ Sharkly

    To tell people that the fear of the Lord and his ability to cast you into hell is ever a wrong reason to consider when deciding your behavior, is to try to steal even the beginning of wisdom from them.

    I agree with a reason to change behavior as a Christian.

    I am speaking of those who are trying to do good works because they think it’ll make them saved.

    Maybe I did not explain that well in the post.

  3. Sharkly says:

    Not to keep picking, but, even for those who do not understand the Gospel of Jesus Christ, and are not redeemed, if they believe in God and fear His justice, that alone will impart the beginning of wisdom to them. While their belief that they can be saved solely through good works is wrong, they are still wise to do good works out of the fear of angering God, and even more so should we the redeemed possess that wisdom unto righteousness.
    James 4:17 Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.
    Sinners are wise to minimize their sinning and seek after righteousness. And perchance God, who is merciful and favors all the upright, will, by His grace, show them the path to reconciliation through Jesus Christ.
    John 13:35 By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.
    And how will they see that we love each other if only the lost/misguided are wisely doing good works due to the fear of God?
    Faith without works is dead.
    James 2:24 Ye see then how that by works a man is justified, and not by faith only.
    If unsaved men are outdoing us in good works, that is a problem. We should not be criticizing them for their attempt to work for salvation, but instead sharing the Gospel with them, and doing many good works which show that our faith is living.

    Anyhow, I was glad that you didn’t respond with the typical churchian 1 John 4:18 misapplication that is used, against hermeneutical principles, to directly contradict God’s command: Thou shalt fear the Lord thy God.
    Forcing me to explain that God’s love is conditional, and those conditions were explained to us, even before our redeemer came:
    Psalm 2:7 I will declare the decree: the Lord hath said unto me, Thou art my Son; this day have I begotten thee. 8 Ask of me, and I shall give thee the heathen for thine inheritance, and the uttermost parts of the earth for thy possession. 9 Thou shalt break them with a rod of iron; thou shalt dash them in pieces like a potter’s vessel. 10 Be wise now therefore, O ye kings: be instructed, ye judges of the earth. 11 Serve the Lord with fear, and rejoice with trembling. 12 Kiss the Son, lest He be angry, and ye perish from the way, when His wrath is kindled but a little. Blessed are all they that put their trust in Him.

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