I actually went searching for a source of the statistic a while ago, and I think it was Aaron Renn who eventually came up with a source from this paper. Go subscribe to the masculinist newsletter for free if you haven’t already.
Table 1 and Figure 1 show the percentage of heterosexual couple breakups in HCMST waves 2-5 whose breakup was wanted more by the woman. If the woman wanted the breakup more, that is scored as “1”; if the man wanted the breakup more, that is scored as “0”; and if both partners wanted the breakup equally, that is scored as “0.5.” Table 1 shows that women accounted for 69% of the breakups of heterosexual marriages, consistent with the approximately two thirds of divorces wanted by wives reported in other studies (England and Kilbourne 1990; Sayer et al. 2011; Sweeney 2002; Heaton and Blake 1999). Even though only 92 breakups of heterosexual marriages were recorded in the data, the 69% of marital breakups wanted by women is significantly different from 50%, with a 95% confidence interval ranging from 61% to 78%.
The particular study was small in that it was about 100 divorces or so with the 69% rate, but several other studies prior corroborate those approximate statistics. The confidence interval of 61-78% is likely a solid range. I wouldn’t be surprised if an analysis of the data suggests that it’s actually higher because sometimes the wife “forces” the husband to file for the divorce.
If I remember correctly, men typically divorce more when they marry young whereas women divorce more when they’re older. This makes some sense since men’s attractiveness increases as he gets older, so there’s more temptation for him to want to look for a woman hotter and younger than his wife if they start to show interest in him.
For the women who are older, if the women were college educated the rate jumped up to 90% women initiated divorce, but they have the overall lower divorces by number. The higher the hypergamy, the greater the divorce initiation rate of the number of divorces by a woman, but if they are college educated you do have a lower chance of divorce overall. It’s likely that more of the women who were college educated and getting married at a higher age married a “beta bucks” that they eventually divorced. College degree is also associated with greater earning potential which means the wife would not have to rely as much on the husband for provisioning. Thus, not having much “alpha” and not needing “beta” she’ll pretty much just jet out of the marriage if she’s anywhere remotely unhappy. However, the college women that are fairly happy or very happy with their choice of man will not want to divorce him at all compared to less educated women.
In general, this goes back to my recommendation to young men in doom and gloom and the amount of attractive Christian virgins Part 4 to find younger women in the 21-24 year old age range (or 18-26 or 27) range if you are a man in your late 20s to early 30s. If she’s FAST – faithful, available, saved, and teachable that is a good sign along with devotion to God and respect for you. College educated is likely a good thing unless she’s looking at you like a second choice and/or beta bucks. I don’t recommend revealing any type of finances until she “likes you for who you are” for a while.