I’ve been ruminating on this topic in my thoughts recently. I’m not talking about the double standards in regard to men and women either, although that is certainly prevalent throughout the Church and culture. Men are held to a higher standard of behavior, crapped on more by society, demonized for being male or masculine, and such.
What I am talking about is the advice given or not given when these topics are approached.
For example, if I were to ask a fellow Christian about how I can get closer to God and grow in my relationship with Him I would be given direct actionable advice on this:
- Read the Bible
- Meditate on the Word
- Love and serve others in your daily life and through ministries at Church
- Utilize your spiritual gifts for the Kingdom
- Be ready to tell of the hope that you have in Christ (e.g. preach the gospel)
- Help those in need
- Be kind and generous to everyone
Lots of actionable ways to help a new or less mature Christian to grow stronger in their faith.
But when you broach the topic of relationships, marriage, or sex all you get is wishy-washy or totally ignorant or even totally wrong answers.
Why don’t women like me?
- “Just be yourself,”
- “Everything in God’s timing,”
- “Have you considered that you might have the gift of celibacy?”
This is the type of stuff that really annoys me off nowadays.
Yeah, these topics can be uncomfortable to talk about, but who is going to help Christian men if not other Christian men? You don’t want them to be getting the most useful advice from the world which can easily lead them down the road of condemning their soul to hell.
Why are we so afraid of talking about the truth of men and women?