Watched several of Alexander Grace Youtube videos. It appears he’s one of the few going out and doing so called “red pill” interviews and looking at various studies to help me see what female nature is like in real life.
A few of the studies he goes over are:
The big takeaway from this one is that the shorter you are the number of competitors you have to find a potential mate goes way up for men.
Any man below 170cm (5 feet 5.7 inches) has 2-16x as many competitors, mainly because women generally prefer a man that is taller than her. Since the average female height is around 5’4″ish range that means the population significantly dips the shorter you get as a man.
The easiest male height appears to be 180-190cm which is 5’11” to 6’3″. This hits the often stated “women like men who are 6 feet” mantra while not being too tall where most women wouldn’t feel too short against that height.
The selected study is actually very interesting because the researches looked at “inaction regret” and “action regret” and see how it affected behaviors. Inaction regret would be like if you had the opportunity to do something and didn’t do it (e.g. have sex but chose not have sex) and action regret is the opposite (e.g. you had sex and then regretted it).
Basically, with action regret and casual sex they found some of the following conclusions for women, contrary to what the researches thought.
- Action regret did not reduce casual sex for women
- Action regret did not increase the probability that women would enter a long term relationship instead of having more casual sex and in fact increased the probability that they would have more casual sex
- Women chose partners the same, even when regretting them
Basically, reconfirming old wisdom like “you can’t turn a hoe into a housewife” and the obvious virginity and divorce statistics.
Also reconfirming the general wisdom that women tend to be bad choosers of potential mates. Some women can be good choosers, but they generally have to be taught much like men have to be taught to be a man. Leaving women to their own devices generally trends to the casual sex and regret cycle.
This is probably the most telling picture, but there are more in the link above.
Generally, men were pretty accurate on how much they valued attractiveness and fun, but were off on some of the others. I don’t find this surprising since most men aren’t attracted to sincerity, intelligence, or ambitiousness in women, but the biggest change is in the common interest which is relatively common. Among friend groups with similar interests like sports and other hobbies there’s usually men and women forming relationships.
Women are totally off and don’t really know what they want. Obviously, we know women won’t talk to any men they find unattractive, so it’s not surprising that they vastly underestimate attractiveness in wanting a second date. Interest and fun I think are second namely because it’s hard to show ambitiousness and intelligence except in real world scenarios and not artificial ones.
In any case, I thought those were some interesting vids to look through overall if you wanted to understand the nature of women better. The vast majority confirms most ‘RP’ concepts on hypergamy and some of the other ones listed in this post.
This post was written before he dropped a vid a day or two ago on his own relationship, so I’m adding this section in too.
h/t TomA’s summary on RPC discord:
Very interesting to watch Alexander immediately DEER (defend, excuse, explain, rationalize) the leadership role in his relationship and (1:44:20) then admit he only leads her as far as she agrees with his leadership.
He offers RP dating advice with a focus on empirical psychology and evopsycho theory. He tries to clean up RP material by being very empathetic to men and women, talks a lot about trauma (he clear had it and its a big lens of his onto the world), and is a Randian.
Check out the description of this video, he dishes it pretty straight. I like him 9 times out of 10.
Fairly good summary having watched about 10-15 of his vids and watched the above link as well.
Obviously, AG doesn’t have the Biblical perspective of Jesus choosing his disciples but they also had to be willing to and commit to follow. It’s not a “democratically elected process” as AG mentions in the video which means he only leads her insofar as she agrees with his leadership.
The sad part is that most of the Church gets thing wrong as well. Most Christian Church “the man leads the relationship” complementarians are like this as well. The husband is supposedly leading and doing his thing, until there is some disagreement to which many in the Church would often say “listen to your wife.” What this actually means is the wife is the authority and not the husband. Yeah, the husband may be the “final chooser” supposedly but often he is brow beaten if his wife gets unhappy or he SIMPs to her if she complains enough.
It’s excusable from AG but not from Christians. However, many/most Christians seem to really like this “democracy” for some reason.