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Teachable: one of the most critical traits in vetting a wife

Teachable is one of the least discussed traits that should be high up on the list. The evidence for it is obvious: Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for … Continue reading

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Vetting is for identifying red flags from past behavior; future behavior needs Biblical solutions

Y’all giving me lots of material for posts from the comments section of the same post of my previous post on What makes a Christian marriage successful? Vetting There seems to be a very wrong impression about the value of … Continue reading

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Understanding what vetting does and does not do

There’s a “married red pill” post going around about how “vetting doesn’t work and why boundaries are way better” which has some good points though I disagree with a substantial amount. I’ll quote a few parts of that post. Click … Continue reading

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Jesus on vetting for marriage and lessons

The purpose of vetting for marriage is to find a wife that is suitable for marriage. We are in the engagement period of Christ and the Church, with the Holy Spirit as our seal of engagement (Eph 1:13-14) much like … Continue reading

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Review of vetting, virgins and new info on virginity pledges

I’m reviewing some of this for the book, plus some newer information. First, revisiting vetting. I’m going to eliminate as much commentary as I can, as this review is going to be very long. Let’s look at one example we … Continue reading

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Actionable steps to finding a wife

Update: I’ve written a book based on many of the experiences on this blog to help Christian men: The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint: A Christian Man’s Guide to Attraction, Relationships, and Marriage in a Messed-up World I’m mainly putting up this … Continue reading

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Vetting, risk of divorce, and the myth of change

One of the interesting phenomena I am repeatedly encountering is the fact that some women believe that people change so much over marriage that it’s impossible to predict what happens. Let me put this myth to rest. When I talked … Continue reading

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A detailed timeline and how to guide on the process of finding a wife

This is going to be a monster post. Read at your leisure. Send it to other Christian men if you think it’s useful. edit: Updated 6/2016. What to look for in a prospective Christian wife In general, there have already … Continue reading

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Personality traits, attitudes and divorce

Haven’t posted more vetting stuff in a while, but here are some additional things you can look for. Psyblog covers some of combination of Big 5 traits associated with increased risk of cheaters. I recently had a post on the … Continue reading

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The Christian Brad Pitt thought experiment

This is a throwback for men who are interested in women, have girlfriends, or are married. I was reminded of this recently by someone who had a disagreement with his 18-month girlfriend, and she responded by literally giving him the … Continue reading

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