There is no such thing as parenting. Only fathering and mothering. I think Wintery Knight had a recent post on this as well.
The statistical studies on this are interesting. I’ve commented on this before, but I don’t think I’ve made a post on it and posted the actual study.
The interesting thing about this study is that it came under fire by politically correct groups who wanted it retracted. However, it was not retracted and the people who did the study stood by their work. Pubmed here.
As we already knew, fathers make a difference. Though, I wouldn’t be surprised to see similar results from families with two fathers as opposed to a father and a mother.
What I would really like to see is all of these things compared:
- Father and mother
- Father only
- Mother only
- Two mothers
- Two fathers
We will probably never get something like that unfortunately, because it would only support God’s design for children: a father and mother.
Christianity and masculinity 
What I would really like to see is all of these things compared:
Father and mother
Father only
Mother only
Two mothers
Two fathers
We will probably never get something like that unfortunately, because it would only support God’s design for children: a father and mother.
Exactly. The narrative WILL be maintained at all costs.
You know, it almost seems like He know what He was doing….
I heard the other day about a lesbian couple who wanted to get impregnated with sperm from a sperm bank, then take the fertilized egg out and put it into the other woman to give birth and “carry her fertilized egg” And these people are “normal”.
Children need both a mother and father to grow into productive adults. No woman can teach a boy how to be a man, and no man can teach a girl how to be a woman. A daughter needs her father to know what kind of man she should grow up to be with, and a boy needs his mother to show him what qualities to look for in a potential mate.
Oh…you’ll get some random, shoddy study that shows outcomes of children of two father/two mother couples is better than the standard mother/father pairing…and it will be THE STUDY used by every crappy article on gay marriage by social moonbats for 20+ years even though it had been thoroughly disproven countless time.
Though, I wouldn’t be surprised to see similar results from families with two fathers as opposed to a father and a mother.
I’d expect much worse numbers on the “Was ever touched sexually by a parent or other adult” metric.
In addition to the rest of those categories, I’d also like to see the “father only” and “mother only” categories split between “only one parent because of divorce/separation/abandonment” and “only one parent because the other parent died”. I suspect that children of widowhood or widowerhood would have better outcomes than the children of abandonment, because children of widowhood/widowerhood won’t have to deal with resentment at their mother/father’s abandoning them*. But I’d like to see numbers to verify whether my intuition is correct. And, as you’ve said, it’s unlikely that anyone will do that study.
* Except possibly in the case where the dead parent committed suicide. It would also be interesting to break out those numbers, too. Though to get statistically significant results there, you’d really have to survey a LOT of people in order to find enough people whose parents had died of suicide and non-suicide causes.
@purpletigerbot:
Considering how long the terrible Cholesterol studies stayed until they were debunked, probably closer to 60 years.
@Robin Munn:
I’m fairly certain there is studies on the outcomes of Widow/er parents and they’re almost the same as Father/Mother. Though it wouldn’t surprise me if the Suicide ones are what skews matters.
From personal experience, the biggest difference is always in the reality of the matter. There’s never a sense of “Dad might come home!” when Dad is very much 6 feet under.
Christians hate the idea that fathering is different to mothering because they want fathers to do the mothering as well.
take this example
“As I walked in the door last night, this was what I saw…a husband who works tirelessly to provide for us, who also loves me sacrificially to free me up to go out for a birthday dinner without the kids, and two precious little blessings the Lord answered yes to in our prayers that were teaching to learn to love each other. I am SOOO abundantly blessed by my gifts given to me, but most importantly to me, is not that Jed and JJ would be best friends (though what a sweet fruit that would be of their selfless love), but that they’d find ALL of their fulfillment in Christ ALONE and that he’d be their EVERYTHING! Join with me in praying that Josh and I would work diligently to cultivate a love for our sweet Savior for them to turn to and that they’d be saved!!”
Posted on facebook
these men encourage each other to be the primary homemakers and child carers whenever theu are home so their wives can go on weekends , nights out or work- this is all sacrificial love.
So now men , taking on both the provider role and homemaking is sacrificial love
so of course their is no difference, the men are just like women. Kids growing up would see no difference.
these men encourage each other to be the primary homemakers and child carers whenever they are home so their wives can go on weekends , nights out or work- this is all sacrificial love.
So now men , taking on both the provider role and homemaking is sacrificial love
so of course their is no difference, the men are just like women. Kids growing up would see no difference.
A guy hanging out one-on-one for a couple for hours with his own kids, and allowing his wife to go out to dinner with a friend is tantamount to his being the homemaker?
It reads as if the kids are sons who certainly need time with Dad away from Mom so she doesn’t stuff ’em full of blue pills, right? And this woman is gushing over her husband, complimenting him in ways you never hear talked about in RP land. THIS is the reaction, a concern about blurring of sex roles when it’s clear he was doing something out of the ordinary?