Actionable steps to finding a wife

Update: I’ve written a book based on many of the experiences on this blog to help Christian men: The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint: A Christian Man’s Guide to Attraction, Relationships, and Marriage in a Messed-up World

I’m mainly putting up this page because the most of the actionable posts are buried on the blog now that I’ve published more than 350 posts.

Much of our cultural understanding of relationships is wrong! We need to look to the Bible to see how Jesus acted for relationships and marriage.

• Jesus says follow Me — the correct view of relationships and marriage contrary to the culture

Understanding why attraction is important to a marriage.

• A Christian understanding of attraction, and the role it plays in marriage Part 3
• Trust, attraction, and the Biblical female marital roles of helper, submission, and respect Part 1
• Trust, attraction, and the Biblical female marital roles of helper, submission, and respect Part 2
• No, godliness is still not attractive

The main posts on how to grow in godly masculinity, prepare for a marriage, and look for a wife.

• Plans of action on attractive traits for men looking for a wife for a godly marriage
• My 5 step process to maturity in relationships
• A detailed timeline and how-to guide on the process of finding a wife
• Review of vetting, statistics on virginity in the Church, and pledges
• The headship conversation
• Discussing sex and virginity with a potential spouse is important
• Questions and topics to learn about your prospective spouse
• Masculine immaturity is placing responsibilities before roles
• Practical advice to single Christian men establishing leadership and the right frame when starting a relationship
• What I look for in evaluating a potential wife Part 2

How to lead in marriage:

• Marriage structures

If you want to look at other posts I would consider essential, check out the ‘mission framework’ category in the categorized posts section.

Bonus: Dalrock’s post on how feminist ideas have infected the Church, specifically CBMW (which is the “complementarian” position). The true Biblical position is most similar to Patriarchy (and by Patriarchy I mean male led families and the Church).

• All roads lead to Duluth
• The root of the problem
• Call me unchivalrous and my analysis on Christianity, chivalry, feminism, game, complementarianism, and egalitarianism

Another bonus:

• Deti’s advice to underqualified men