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I’ve written a book based on many of the experiences on this blog to help Christian men: The Biblical Masculinity Blueprint: A Christian Man’s Guide to Attraction, Relationships, and Marriage in a Messed-up World

Framework:

If you’re new and wondering what this blog is about read the framework of the mission posts.

Where to start as a young Christian man.

The framework of the mission:
Hebrew and Greek Resources for the Scriptures
Discerning the mission
Understanding the world and the mission
Clarity of Purpose
Scripture and sex roles
Husbands and wives summarized
Structures of authority summarized
Structures of authority before the fall
Independent Testimony
Authority is good
A Christian understanding of attraction
Dominion
Dominion Part 2
Behavioral cycles and Identity
Identity – Foundations
Identity Part 2 — Subtle Rebellion
Identity Part 3 — Internal and External
Identity Part 4 — Submit to the process of loving yourself
Identity Part 5 — roots and heresies of identity
Everything you see is a symptom
Your attitude tells me everything I need to know
Identity Part 6 — performance and desire
My 5 step process to maturity in relationships
The demonization of masculinity
Permission
What is masculinity?
How servant leadership is twisted
Intentions and results
Respectful submission not submission
The Parable of the CEO
Understanding faith and authority are critical to Christians
You teach people how to treat you
Transcend your circumstances
Selective deception
Reflections of Purpose
Discussing sex and virginity with a potential spouse is important
Boundaries
A detailed timeline and how-to guide on the process of finding a wife
Covert contracts, Overt contracts, and women
The law of reciprocal.
On divorce Part 2.
Vetting, risk of divorce, and the myth of change.
Her father.
Understanding Godly value.
Authority is Good Part 2.
The most eligible Christian bachelor.
Men do not pursue women.
The influence of emotions on respect, submission, and love.
Let’s talk about marriage, fear, and dread.
The nature of man is spirit, soul, heart, and flesh.
The varieties of dysfunctional relationship patterns.
The two dysfunctional mindsets that men suffer from in relationships.
How long should one wait for marriage.
Women need flavor with food.
Christian love is different according to roles.
Where to start as a young Christian man.
How do wives petition or win their husbands.
Masculine immaturity is placing responsibilities before roles.
Incentives.
Attraction and the roots of dysfunction in relationships.
He is risen — Jesus and the post-mortem experiences.
Marriage structures.
The free will to marry.
The headship conversation.
Navigating the Biblical basis of attraction and marriage with others.
What drives the delay in the marriage.
Why I don’t respect women Part 2.
A good fit.
The Patriarchy Part 2.
Women like sex too (the Christian ought trap).
Not curses but punishments (Genesis 3) Part 2.
Intuitive heuristics: Be THE man.
Patriarch or Monk.
Submission is a test of faith.
Women’s sin nature in marriage and contentment.
Options and escape plans.
A Christian understanding of attraction and the role it plays in marriage Part 2.
The leadership of a husband.
There is no grace and mercy without justice and why men are leaders.
Service is not submission.
Marital needs, marital wants and maturity.
The failure of chivalry in Biblical marriage, works and desire, and the failure of game
The failure of game redux

Understanding the Scriptures as it pertains to godly mindset and a godly lifestyle:

Christian masculinity and confidence
The foundations of Christian Masculinity
God doesn’t owe you anything
Christian nice guys are stunted in growth
Self improvement versus God improvement
The fundamental nature of Christianity
Not personal responsibility but stewardship
God is good
Always be on your game
Fear, the final frontier
God gives the force to everyone
Life is transactional
Christian masculinity, mastery, the internal and the external
Anchored emotions
Good and the good, and bad and the bad
The New Testament
The Centurion’s Faith
Anchored souls
Christianity in the western world
Not what you feel but why you feel
Change the mind change the man
Mark 7 and the socialization of men
Saved
Joy, grace, forgiveness, and charisma
The masculinity of Jesus Part 1
The Masculinity of Jesus Part 2 (return and Jesus in the temple)
The Masculinity of Jesus Part 3 (baptism and temptation)
God’s stance on sex in marriage is universal
The Masculinity of Jesus Part 4 (marriage at Cana)
The Masculinity of Jesus Part 5 (Nicodemus and return to Galilee)
Fake it ’til you make it
Christian nice guys are abused Part 2
Responsibility
Love is
Christian nice guys are not good
The Masculinity of Jesus Part 6 (Exorcism and the Growing Seed)
The Masculinity of Jesus Part 7 (Hometown rejection)
All Scripture and the self
Influence
Everything is spiritual
Marriage
God allowed it
Not game but God
Unity Part 3 — the Church
Jenny Erikson did not test the spirits
Unity Part 4 — the delicate balance of love in marriage
Excuses and explanations
Pride
The godliness of Jesus Part 9 — Sermon on the Mount
Exploring Modesty
Reactive, Proactive, and Truth
Structures of authority summarized
Strengths and weaknesses
Fear, respect, honor, and truth (phobeo & timao)
Structures of authority before the fall
Double Thunk
Nice versus love, goodness, and righteousness
The trappings of the mind
Jesus and the Church is husbands and wives
There is Power in the Truth
Why modesty
Is there marital rape or not
Authority is good
Where man up goes wrong
Dominion
What I believe regarding marriage
Authority, submission, obedience, and servanthood
God and marriage
A lack of joy and peace
Attraction, desire, chemistry, arousal, and marriage
The sexual marketplace and marriage marketplace
Questions and topics to learn about your prospective spouse
The backwardness of the church
Rational and irrational fear
Fear and marriage
The etymology of a rebuke
God hates chivalry
Institutions and relationships
Headship is not authority in marriage
Headship is not authority in marriage Part 2
Headship is not authority in marriage Part 3
Wrestling with God
Illustrating identity issues
On divorce
Headship is authority in marriage Part 4
The basics
10 women Christian men should not marry
Expectations of Christian and secular women
The real reason for Ephesians 5:21
Harvard business school advice
Your attitude tells me everything I need to know
Dating and courtship discussion
50 Shades of Grey analysis
Performance and desire and courtship and dating post script
Dating, labels, and authority analysis
Saving civilization
Authenticity and charisma
Destruction of morals and the idolization of romantic love
Destruction of morals and the commodification of romantic love
The chain of corruption
Indiana and baking cakes or pizza for gay weddings
The demonization of masculinity and Numbers 30
Oneitis and the blue pill are manifestations of a man’s rationalization hamster
Permission
What is masculinity?
How servant leadership is twisted
Devotion to Christ
Understanding statistical population models and using them to vet correctly
To the third and fourth generation
No true Scotsman
Prophecies about marriage
Independent versus self sufficient and responsible
Navigating hopelessness and despair
In Spirit and Truth Part 1
In Spirit and Truth Part 2
Shame doesn’t work Part 1
SCOTUS and the love of Jesus Christ Part 1
SCOTUS and the love of Jesus Christ Part 2
Shaming doesn’t work Part 2
Half of women marry the best sex of their lives
The masculine and the feminine and identity testing
Discussing sex and virginity with a potential spouse is important
The FYI on male sexuality
Boundaries
A detailed timeline and how-to guide on the process of finding a wife
Yet again why women cannot teach men to be men
The sexes have dramatically different mate preferences
Male and female sexual desire is not sinful
Sexuality and the transition from single to married.
There is no failure.
No excuses.
The purpose of prayer and how it relates to faith and hope.
Shallowness is false humility.
The three big elephants in the Christian dating and marriage room.
The aspects of forgiveness and bitterness is victim mentality.
BMI, Overweight and attractiveness.
Doom and gloom and the amount of attractive Christian virgins.
On divorce Part 2.
Maximizing the chances of Christian women to find a spouse.
It’s almost as if men and women are different.
A wife’s plea to Christian men about their sexual sinning.
Wolves in sheep’s clothing.
Barking up the wrong tree.
My apologies.
Thoughts on a clear vision for authentic manhood.
Her father.
Doing your homework, studying, and the exam.
The minefield of online dating.
Lens of bias.
Leah and Rachel.
All Better syndrome.
Understanding the flesh.
Politely challenging church leaders on marriage.
Understanding Godly value.
Authority is Good Part 2.
The most eligible Christian bachelor.
Men do not pursue women.
The influence of emotions on respect, submission, and love.
The nature of man is spirit, soul, heart, and flesh.
alpha beta misunderstandings.
The self deprecating husband.
The two dysfunctional mindsets that men suffer from in relationships.
Blinded by infatuation.
How long should one wait for marriage.
On divorce Part 3.
Christian love is different according to roles.
Shades of rebellion.
Where to start as a young Christian man.
How do wives petition or win their husbands.
Masculine immaturity is placing responsibilities before roles.
Incentives.
Incentives Part 2 — Replacing man up.
The Patriarchy.
Half my kingdom.
Attraction and the roots of dysfunction in relationships.
Random thought of the day.
No offense.
Doubling down on sin: the case female self esteem.
Feminism is the promotion and glorification of rebellion.
Ergonomics.
Women teaching women in Church.
Looking for a Church or not.
False humility is insidious.
Cold shower meditation.
He is risen — Jesus and the post-mortem experiences.
Entitlement mentality.
Churchianity is a veneer of self righteousness.
The fallacy of teaching men to be emotionally honest.
Marriage structures.
The free will to marry.
Victims versus perpetrators: why it all matters.
The headship conversation.
Real life Ruths.
Navigating the Biblical basis of attraction and marriage with others.
What drives the delay in the marriage.
Kirk Cameron’s marriage tour.
You should rarely read womens’ blogs if at all.
Attributes of friends.
You choose what you are offended by.
Why I don’t respect women Part 2.
A good fit.
Real men don’t love strong women.
The Patriarchy Part 2.
The Patriarchy Part 3.
Women like sex too (the Christian ought trap).
Not curses but punishments (Genesis 3) Part 1.
Not curses but punishments (Genesis 3) Part 2.
Genesis 3, the sin nature of women, good leadership, and female contentment.
The decay is a time of pruning.
A lesson in false humility: Christians are allergic to healthy lifestyles.
So it has begun.
Intuitive heuristics: Be THE man.
The exception temptation.
A woman’s sexual partners and divorce risk.
Intuitive heuristics: Is the 20% rule accurate or not?.
Christianity and masculinity.
Patriarch or Monk.
Hookup culture statistics.
Intelligent submission is not required.
Submission is a test of faith.
Women’s sin nature in marriage and contentment.
Options and escape plans.
Beating the obesity dead horse and pickiness.
You may marry someone you’re not initially attracted to.
A Christian understanding of attraction and the role it plays in marriage Part 2.
Male attractiveness, submission, and female orgasms.
Weight no more.
guys and men.
You’re not responsible for a woman’s emotions.
Marital competency.
Fat acceptance is forced narcissism.
Discontent women need structure.
The leadership of a husband.
Women cannot love a man the way he wants to be loved.
There is no grace and mercy without justice and why men are leaders.
Sexual needs.
The unique fallacy and why judgments matter.
The flaws of liberals and conservatives.
Feminism is an inferiority complex and white knights are enablers.
Non-physical attributes of humans.
10 Christian Dating Principles That Could Transform Lives.
Evangelical culture in a nutshell.
The feminization of Christianity.
Food porn.
Miscegenation, sanctification, imperatives, and principles.
Women are as visual as men.
Warning signs.
The same ole feminization of Christianity bluster.
No One Can Harm the Man Who Does Not Harm Himself.
Real life Ruths update.
The problems with intelligent submission.
Wifely submission is easy.
Why women are prohibited from certain positions in Church.
Women hate sacrifice when it involves suffering.
Men try to out work their suffering.
Review: Danny Silk’s Defining the Relationship.
The Masculinist.
Polygyny
Chinese culture and chastity
On divorce Part 4
Ideas for a treatise on Patriarchal marriage
Men try to out work their suffering example
We live in a polytheistic culture
Usurpers.Complementarians are worse than egalitarians.
The Scriptures, Tradition and Canon.
They hate everything that God calls blessed.
Service is not submission.
Marital needs, marital wants and maturity.
If you’re spiritually immature, you should expect your wife won’t submit.
Ten traps that trip up the trying to be submissive wife.
All I have is Yours.
Holiness, Sanctification, Purity, and Chastity.
Sunday school is superfluous.
A man’s take on potentially dating or marrying a woman with a past.
Divorce advocates are the same as egalitarians.
Grace, mercy, and Christian perception of sin.
Head coverings.

Learning godly behavior by putting it into practice (some with women):
Practical ways to improve your attractiveness and desirability for a Christian spouse
Leave her better than how you found her
Improving your public and conversational speaking
Let’s just be friends
Improving your public and conversational speaking 2
The compassion of Christ
Be decisive
The Teacher and the Student
Never beg and never plead
Methods of exchange
Please
Complaining is a sin
I’ll pray about it
Apologies
Apologies Part 2
Apologies Part 3
An ear or a hand
Unity
Unity Part 2
The godliness of Jesus Part 8 First disciples of Jesus
Ashamed
Idols
In the moment
Men who get it and men who don’t
Why I don’t respect women
Love and Respect
I want you versus I need you
Being a Christian can be offensive
Free Will
Parents training children
Length of time prior to engagement and marriage
Overcoming the Anger Phase
Emotional engagement
Scrupulosity, boundaries, and saying no
Economic upheaval
Boundaries
A detailed timeline and how-to guide on the process of finding a wife.
Marriage structures.
Doom and gloom and the amount of attractive Christian virgins Part 2.

Learning the subtleties of godly masculine behavior as it pertains to women:
Christian masculinity, the nice guy, and neediness
Understanding Attraction
Christian nice guys are abused
Christian masculinity, mindset, and fitness testing
Hard mode
Her emotions
The Socialization of men and women
The selfish and unselfish socialization of men
Masculinity is the truth
Masculinity is the truth Part 2
Role reversal
Framework for Offense and Defense
Helpmeet
Husbands win their wives with words
The Masculinity of Jesus Part 4 (marriage at Cana)
Is there mutual submission or not
Husbands and wives summarized
Her Emotions Part 2
A Christian understanding of attraction
Dominion
Authority, submission, obedience, and servanthood
Romance
Seeds of manipulation
The nature of man and woman before the fall
Why I don’t respect women
Love and Respect
I want you versus I need you
Understanding submission
Looks in regard to facial attractiveness
How to treat rebellious spouses
Why women aren’t allowed to teach men in Church
A Christian understanding of relationship dynamics
Christian women and the rationalization of attraction
Attitude and variable answers
Talking about your emotions with women
Slapping women and social commentary
Formalization of AWALT and NAWALT
Christianese for just be yourself
Understanding the friend zone and escaping it
Correcting performance failure in relationships
Meeting your husband’s and wife’s seven basic needs
The parable of the whore
Why the boys like ditzy girls
The masculine and the feminine and identity testing
Discussing sex and virginity with a potential spouse is important
Boundaries
A detailed timeline and how-to guide on the process of finding a wife.
Communication in relationships Part 1.
Answering questions about engagement.
If somebody blows it big time then next them.
Vetting, risk of divorce, and the myth of change.
Take the job.
Let’s talk about marriage, fear, and dread.
The varieties of dysfunctional relationship patterns.
Women need flavor with food.
The influence of hypergamy on attractiveness and relationships.
Masculine immaturity is placing responsibilities before roles.
The headship conversation.
A good fit.
Is BPD just women with too much freedom revisited.
Intuitive heuristics: Be THE man.
Intelligent submission is not required.
Submission is a test of faith.
You’re not responsible for a woman’s emotions.
Sexual needs.

About my search and mindset:
What I look for in evaluating a potential wife
The Change
Evolving Desires
What I believe regarding marriage
W hat I look for in evaluating a potential wife Part 2
Understanding statistical population models and using them to vet correctly.

Christian femininity:
A brief commentary to Christian women who desire a husband
3 methods Christian women can implement to become attracted to Christian men
Helpmeet
Wives will never win their husbands with words
God’s stance on sex in marriage is universal
Husbands win their wives with words
Is there mutual submission or not
Love is
Husbands and wives summarized
Exploring Modesty
Individual and societal responses in civilization
The nature of man and woman before the fall
Things women can do to signal interest
Oral contraception alters your brain
Correcting performance failure in relationships
Meeting your husband’s and wife’s seven basic needs
Respectful submission not submission
The parable of the whore
Semen also alters your brain
The FYI on male sexuality.
The three big elephants in the Christian dating and marriage room.
BMI, Overweight and attractiveness.
Why modern women are so anxious.
6 options for godly single women wanting to marry.
Maximizing the chances of Christian women to find a spouse.
A wife’s plea to Christian men about their sexual sinning.
Wolves in sheep’s clothing.
Barking up the wrong tree.
How do wives petition or win their husbands.
Doubling down on sin: the case female self esteem.
Women teaching women in Church.
Marriage structures.
Real life Ruths.
Is BPD just women with too much freedom revisited.
Genesis 3, the sin nature of women, good leadership, and female contentment.
The exception temptation.
Intelligent submission is not required.
Women’s sin nature in marriage and contentment.
Options and escape plans.
A Christian understanding of attraction and the role it plays in marriage Part 2.
Real life Ruths update.
The problems with intelligent submission.
Wifely submission is easy.
Why women are prohibited from certain positions in Church.
Women hate sacrifice when it involves suffering.
If you’re spiritually immature, you should expect your wife won’t submit.
Ten traps that trip up the trying to be submissive wife.

Game debate (retired):
To game or not to game
Game is not a toolbox
The Red Pill and Game
The end of the game debate
The game alternative
The failure of chivalry in Biblical marriage, works and desire, and the failure of game
The failure of game redux