The comments of Intelligent submission is not required and Submission is a test of faith have reaffirmed my conclusion from the Genesis 3 analysis in Genesis 3, the sin nature of women, good leadership, and female contentment. The funny thing if you read through the comments is that it’s mostly married women arguing points according to the script I laid out in the the exception temptation.
Now, the part I find most interesting is the lack of female contentment, which is the main thrust of Genesis 3. From the comments, you can start to get an accurate indicator of what is of interest. It goes along this progression:
- Women are not interested in What Is.
- Women are not interested in How It Should Be.
- Women are interested in How It Should Be According To Her.
How It Should Be could be one of the goals of the godly leader — the husband — in marriage. However, this is How It Should Be According To Him. How It Should Be According To Him is not enough for many women. How It Should Be According To Her is the Way It Should Be. In other words, covert rebellion.
If you remember, I talked about the various forms of rebellion in Shades of Rebellion. The irony of covert rebellion seen in the difference between these two statements.
- Submission: I follow my husband’s lead.
- Covert rebellion: I let my husband lead.
That’s ultimately what it comes down to: women want to let their husband lead instead of following his lead. I had thought that twisted rebellion like the complementarians espouse was the main sin nature of women. However, I believe I am now wrong about that. Covert rebellion which is “I let my husband lead” is probably the main sin nature of women because it’s under the guise of righteousness (e.g. the husband is leading) but it gives her all of the power (e.g authority) in the relationship.
This is the true essence of virtue signalling. Grabbing power while maintaining the moral high ground. It’s not enough to grab power. It must be done with the moral high ground.
In other words, a woman must look good while rebelling or sinning. As Looking Glass likes to call it: Vanity. Vanity rebellion. Women’s sin nature in marriage is Vanity Rebellion.
Now that the veil has been pulled back on this pattern, you will see it everywhere. When women divorce, it must be her husband’s fault. When bad things happen in a marriage, the full responsibility is foisted on the husband. Any bad feelings are used as indicators that a husband is not leading in a godly manner.
Unfortunately, the Church plays right into this by assuming that godliness is attractive when that is false.
In conclusion, from the previous few posts and this one,
- Submission is a test of faith.
- Modern Christian wives have zero to little faith and trust in their husbands.
- Women’s sin nature in marriage is Vanity Rebellion.
- Modern Christian wives want to default to the “I let my husband lead” position because it signals righteousness (e.g. the husband is leading) but she still has the power (e.g. authority) to decide the direction of the family. In other words, you can lead until…
- The true essence of virtue signalling is grabbing power while maintaining the moral high ground. It’s not enough to grab power. It must be done with the moral high ground.
- A lack of contentment is the core that leads to the temptation to power grab under the guise of righteousness.
The scary part of virtue signalling is that it looks righteous until you example it closer. When you examine it closer, it’s a steaming pile of sin.
Christian husbands need to be on the look out for vanity rebellion. Calling out bad attitudes, rebellious behavior, and vanity is a good start.
If there’s anything to say to women who profess themselves as Christian: be content and encourage contentment to other Christian women via Titus 2. This will help stave off both the temptation to virtue signal and power grab in marriage.