Figured I would comment on such things.
The main issue that I see is that Christians don’t want to “be associated with something they think goes against God” or that they don’t want to “be condoning of something that goes against God’s law.”
Two distinctions need to be made.
First, we hold those inside the church to a higher standard. Those inside the church call themselves Christian, and thus we need to hold them to standard of obedience to Jesus’ commands.
Secondly, to those outside of the church we are to hold them to a different standard. That of God’s unconditional love for us.
Obviously, the case with say baking cakes for gay weddings is a scenario that falls under the second. Therefore, the goal to those who do not know God’s love is to be able to show them unconditional love. Jesus in the sermon on the mount in Matthew 5 makes this clear.
Matthew 5:38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth.’ 39 But I say to you, do not resist an evil person; but whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also. 40 If anyone wants to sue you and take your [am]shirt, let him have your [an]coat also. 41 Whoever [ao]forces you to go one mile, go with him two. 42 Give to him who asks of you, and do not turn away from him who wants to borrow from you.
43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 so that you may [ap]be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 46 For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? 47 If you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same? 48 Therefore [aq]you are to be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.
The vast majority of “Christians” have this backward mentality with non-Christians. The Christians think they need to be moral arbiters here on the earth of what is right and wrong. No. That’s God’s job.
As it says in the Scriptures there are those who are going to do evil to you. They want to slap you. They will want to sue you. They want to force you to do things you don’t want them to do. Does He tell us to resist that? Nope, rather Jesus says do more than they ask even if if they have wronged you.
What Christians who refuse baking the cake for the gay weddings is the same as “loving your neighbor and hating your enemy.” Wow, it’s really easy to love other Christians who are following the Word, but what about people who aren’t? Are you going to be mean and nasty to them because they don’t believe the same things you do? Or are you going to love and bless them and be kind to them so that they know God has changed you.
But to truly understand what you’re doing in this scenario you have to know first what God did for you:
Romans 5:8 but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
In our SIN, He died for us. He died for the Pharisees who hated Him. He died for the robber on the cross that scorned Him. He died for the Romans that scourged Him, divided up His clothes, placed a crown of thorns on His head, and nailed Him to the cross. He died for those who tortured and murdered Him when He was innocent.
Yet Christians want to deny a cake or pizza for a gay wedding? Please. God did not deny us Christ’s sacrifice when we were in our sin.
You’re not condoning a gay wedding when you provide services for them. You’re showing them God’s love reflected in your actions. Do you want to show them how great the Father’s love is or do you want to be selfish with God’s love saying they don’t deserve it? Because that’s all they see when Christians refuse.
You’re being a Pharisee to them when they’re a tax collector or sinner in Luke 15 when Jesus talks about the parable of the lost sheep, lost coin, and Prodigal Son.
Bake a cake for a gay wedding? I’d bake them two and refuse their money, and pray that God softens their hearts to accept His grace and mercy.
Moose Norseman made a good argument in the comments that I find particularly convincing based from Matthew 10 on discipleship and service. As such I am changing my opinion on this matter. The alternative he suggested was good too:
If you have a set policy of anytime we have to decline a custom cake, the customer receives a coupon good for one of our standard cakes free, I have no problem with it.
I would also suggest that it’s a good idea to:
- decline “politically controversial topics” for services to everyone, and
- Not mix business with religion of any sort
That is how I would handle things. If you are persecuted from there then so be it.